30... can grow a mo... a flavour savour and a neck beard (which is shaved every other day) but anything that joins all that together just doesnt exist. I've gone longest 4 months without shaving and it is pathetic. Then you shave and look like youre 12

I need help understanding my ex wife's thoughts. She's a mental bitch.

We have been together 7 years, we got together at 15/16 and started living together not longer after that, we were inseperable so her parents allowed me to move in.

We got married at 21/22 (young I know but she pushed for it). Well in December she told me she wanted to move on as she outgrew me. I tried my best to fix it but she eventually slept with some dude she met on tinder (her way of telling me it's over) (her words).

Since than I've slept with my fair share of women and what she did to me doesn't hurt anymore but I'm still obsessed with making it work. She's told me there's no chance of reconciliation and she's pushed the divorce through quite quickly. Every time I try to move on she does things that make me think she's keeping me as a rebound.

She moved out officially a month ago (as our new house for built, I'm staying in the old one). Her job is contracts administration so paperwork is her specialty but everything we need to sign something she'll fuck up her end which drags it out. She leaves stuff at my house so she can keep coming back, won't give the keys back, she's kept the wedding bands as well.

She likes whatever my cousins or Aunty posts on Facebook. She got a new boyfriend like three weeks after we split up.

Any idea on what she's playing at? Few girls I've spoke to seem to think she's keeping me on the back burner but I honestly have no idea.

I know it makes me sound weak but as her husband I feel I have a duty to look after her, she does have a few mental issues that she struggles to cope with, but I feel quite powerless because when I reach out I either don't get a message back or I get told to leave her alone.

Should add the main points.

Reasons she is 100% sure she is done: Cheated, told me she's wants nothing to do with me, new boyfriend already (met all
His family and friends), only texts me when she needs something, pushed divorce through quite quickly.

Reasons she's unsure: leaves stuff at my place (reasons to come back), fills out all bits of paperwork wrong, doesn't like talking about mine or hers dating life, minimal contact with parts of my family, never gave me the complete reason why she wanted to split so bad (refuses to give me closure), got mad when I started sleeping with other women. Oh and she has returned some of my stuff (everything she has is small and could have been given back in one trip) and kept some wedding stuff.

Edited by Slygoat36: 14/3/2016 06:09:37 AM

Sorry to hear that all slygoat. Sounds terrible, and painful.

I had a similar story with my ex (minus being married). I genuinely believe I never truly got over what she did to me tbh. I mostly convinced myself I did, but I think deep down I'll always feel so hurt for how much I put into that relationship to then get it thrown in my face.

I think your friends are right in that your ex is keeping that connection on purpose in case she falls through with her current green-grass plan. My ex did similar and at one point even admitted that she always wanted to have me as the option for if other things fell thru and she was finally ready to get married & have kids etc. It was honestly when she admitted that to me that I think I abandoned any optimism and feelings towards her tbh. Her not-so-subtle intentions became clear as day, and that made me realise how not worth it she was anymore.

It's tricky dude. You'd know yourself that having your partner of so long just leave is impossible just to let go.

My biggest advice is go on a holiday, and ignore your phone, for a month. Get the hell outta everywhere familiar and with reminders of your past life for a while. Get distracted, to the point where you're genuinely enjoying yourself rather than sleeping with some chick in your bed thinking "I used to sleep with the ex in this bed".

Time is the answer. And to help that, ignoring the ex as much as you can during that time is the way you can move on. It's so tricky though.

Feel free to ignore my novella or alternatively if you ever need a good type vent sesh, hit me up dude.

Shit dude, sorry to hear it has happened you also.

It feels so strange because (going to sound gay) it's like we were Romeo and Juilet haha, our parents did everything to keep us apart but nothing would. I just don't understand how she can throw it all away so easily and not even show she gives a shit.

It's been three months but it doesn't really get any easier, I end up resenting all the girls I've dated or been with because they aren't her. It's a horrible place to be in. I've spoken with female friends and they think she is keeping me on the back burner just in case she has a change of heart.

She's told me she wants to move on with her life but she keeps leaving connections behind.

I've just been accepted into uni to study so that's been a good distraction.

Thanks for the advice man :)

We just coming here to talk about a tinder booty call, but that would now seem like exceptionally poor taste.


That sounds frustrating as all hell. A new boyfriend after 3 weeks is pretty rough, and he clearly has no self respect. You couldn't get into a relationship with someone who's been out of a long termer that quickly...
Are you in contact with her parents at all?

Yeah, all her hooks up were on tinder. She even met her new boyfriend on tinder. I don't think she has told him about me. I wouldn't jump into a relationship with a woman straight after her being with a dude for 7 years.

She's a good liar so I'd assume she has him fooled.

I have her mum on Facebook so she would stalk my profile probably, her grandad and I get on well as we both have season tickets at Brisbane roar.

I have heard she told people I was aggressive to her, I think she may have even told some close friends I cheated. Obviously she doesn't want to look like a bitch.

What a coward. Incredible that she can't even be honest to her friends about it.

Dude, as weird as this sounds, I think you'll come out the better in this. She clearly has issues and you sound like your head is pretty well screwed on.

Thanks for the kind words guys.

She was a bit of a head case when I met her but I looked past it, despite her dragging me through the mud I do everything right by her. I feel as if I have to as I was her husband. She refuses to get help and she's surrounded herself with people who barely know her. But even her family aren't getting involved, they are just letting her do it. Hopefully she doesn't ruin herself.

I'm sure it will all work out for the best.

Always free balling, no matter the time or place.

Honestly, no cons to think of other than getting a stiff in public, and even then you just calm things down to a semi and walk around like the king of the world. It's the best when the wind is blowing in the opposite direction to the way you're walking as well (Y)

Also it seems I got lucky with the beard genes. Sweet!

Edited by Draupnir: 14/3/2016 01:45:51 PM

So after posting that, I decided to give it a go. And I haven't looked back!

I played football yesterday and wore underwear for the first time in weeks, and it felt weird :lol:

I'm yet to experience anything bad wrt to odour, sweating through pants, anything - it's just been comfort and freedom 24/7.

I asked my teammates at football and I reckon 1 in 3 freeball in general life. Way higher number than I was expecting!

I'll keep giving it a go, been unreal so far!

Sorry if my problems start to annoy but yesterday the ex wife texts me asking if her manager had emailed me, it's a strange thing to ask as I don't know who he is. When I asked how would he even have my email she didn't bother replying.


Am I looking too much into it or is it her screening to see how quick I reply?

It's unnatural. I can't handle it, unless I'm at the beach.

Isn't it THE most natural thing? :lol:

That's a NO to freeballing from me.

Nope. Balls were made to be comforted.

How is balls being supported natural in any way? A billion scientific studies have shown that freeballing and the access to fresh air and therefore lower temperatures around them improves sperm count as well.

I really don't even understand why there is even a need for guys to wear underwear. It makes absolutely no sense unless you can't shake properly after going to the loo. It's the closest to natural there could possibly be, haha.

I'm not even going to start with how many girls find it hot to find out that one doesn't wear underwear either :lol:

Edited by Draupnir: 15/3/2016 03:48:16 PM

Basically, it's easier to wear David Beckham branded underwear than to get his name tattooed around my hips.

Dear Doc

If ones genitals have not had much action in this lifetime is it possible that they preserve better and arrive in the next life in near new condition? Just wondering and asking for a friend. I know a person who like has a cheeseburger that is 5 years old without a bite out of it and it is preserved perfectly. 🔬

Given that you got together so young, she is probably trying to 'find herself' - cheesy as that sounds. She knows she needs to get away from her source of dependancy (you), but lacks confidence to face the world alone (hence the new BF, and the actions consistent with keeping you on the back burner).

Her issues can only be solved by her. I honestly think you are best off minimising contact, finalising the separation, giving all her stuff back and just being cordial but platonic in your interactions with her.

Her problem is one of lacking her own identity as an adult. So unfortunately you can't help her resolve those issues.

I went to an all boys Catholic school and so many guys got married young, then the relationship fell apart after 5-7 years in almost exactly the same circumstances faced by you. Sometimes it was the guy, sometimes the girl.

It's not your fault. It's just how different people react psychologically to relationships formed at a young age.

To be honest, if you embrace the single life and sow some oats, that may help change your perspective and make you feel less responsible or less involved with her issues.

Meanwhile, in a world which is reminiscent of the tv show House of cards (and not ours'), Vladimir Putin is dating Rupert Murdoch's ex Wendy Deng

Although 'she love you long time', and is the tigress those of you with Yellow Fever are chasing after :lol:



Edited by condemned666: 2/4/2016 08:28:35 PM

wrong thread

Edited by "9GABmeme420": 4/4/2016 11:08:32 AM

I'd give her a bit of GoGurt.

Dear valued clients of 442,

Apologies for not posting in a long time.

The Doc has been busy seducing anything and everything to hone my relationship/squirting skills.

If anyone is after a few quick tips to spice up their relationships, please feel free to ask away and I will reply as soon as possible.

Yours in love

The Doc

Still going strong with the freeballing. Probably in the top 10 decisions I've ever made.

Dear pv4,

I am glad you are still committed to the freeball cause.

Yours in hanging free

The Doc

I'm 60% sure that a girl from school (who I don't really fancy anyway) is flirting with me over Messenger, mainly because she's the only person, let alone an actual female, who has ever initiated conversations. She wants to meet up and discuss ways we could help out the community or something like that. Could be genuine about community shit, but idk it seems weird.

If my assumptions are correct, how do I let her down gently because a) I don't fancy her and b) I'm dead inside?

Hi Salmon,

That is very noble of her to want to participate in some community service. Please pass on my gratitude.

I am not sure of your respective ages but the below advice is based on you both being 18+.

Now to deal with your issue. There was a fine musician by the name of Samwell, who released a song called "What What". First of all, I would you like to search for it on YouTube and watch the entire clip.

Once you have watched the clip, was there any movement in your groin area?

If the answer was yes, please call me for a private consultation.

I have attached a picture of Samwell for your reference.

Yours in love

The Doc

Dr Colin I think I have developed deep feelings for you. How do you suggest we proceed?

this needs to be approached with a bit of tact,  just say you dont give a **** about helping the community, that way it's impersonal and no offense is taken