So. Tonight was my 18th. Said girl was here. We hadn't had a chance to catch up for coffee due to various other commitments. Talked to her for a bit, left her, she started talking to a few mates from uni. By the time I came back, she was getting really close with one of my uni mates. She had one drink, but she was getting really flirty with him, which culminated in her making out with him.

So now, I'm really angry at myself, for leaving her alone. At the same time, she said yes to coffee, and has now gone and stuck her tongue down his throat. I don't what to do really. I spoke to a few friends, they said go to coffee with her if I'm still interested (at this point I'm really unsure), inquire about the guy and the two of them and what that was, but don't be a dick about it. Right now, I'm pretty pissed off though and don't really know what todo. I want to get back at her, but two wrongs don't make a right.

Edited by benjo: 30/12/2012 05:39:35 AM

Nek minnit. Girl in relationship with said guy.

Sounded like a slut anyway Benjo

Sounded like a slut anyway Benjo

So she's a slut because she hooked up with a guy?

Was using the age old technique used by men to console other men of making out that the women he missed out on was no good, to make him feel better for missing out.

Was not being all that serious

Edited by RJL25: 4/1/2013 08:19:29 PM

Where did I say she was a slut? At the very least, she could've not deleted the messages I sent her.

So she's a slut because she hooked up with a guy?

To be fair, hooking up with guys is a slut's profession. She could well be a slut in training.

Where did I say she was a slut? At the very least, she could've not deleted the messages I sent her.

To be fair, hooking up with guys is a slut's profession. She could well be a slut in training.

Sounded like you copped a pretty solid brush!

Sounds like she's a bitch, is that better?

I get that i screwed up like alaways, I didn't make a move, yada yada yada, I suck etc. But messaged her twice, both times she "saw" the message on facebook, and then "unsaw" it, i.e. deleted it. If she'd messaged me and said "look, I like Johnathon, i want to be wth him," I would have respected her more and whilst I wouldn't have been 100% ok with it, I'd understand and I wouldn't have a major problem with it. As it is, I don't have a problem with him, or their relationship, it's more the fact she decided to ignore me altogether.

Maybe I'm going to sound like a bitch for saying this, but it's actually not your right to know that. She wasn't involved with you, so she doesn't need your approval to get involved with this other guy. Yeah, it might have been nice of her to send you a message back, but I hardly blame her for "ignoring" you when you're blowing this way out of proportion.

Beating yourself up about it isn't going to help things.

I didn't say "she needs my approval". I'm just pissed off that she finds it ok to ignore me, you know, the guy she agreed to go out to coffee with. Yeah, i know i didn't act on that and she doesn't owe me anyway, but it would be nice if she'd actually talk to me about it.

Maybe I'm going to sound like a bitch for saying this, but it's actually not your right to know that. She wasn't involved with you, so she doesn't need your approval to get involved with this other guy. Yeah, it might have been nice of her to send you a message back, but I hardly blame her for "ignoring" you when you're blowing this way out of proportion.

Beating yourself up about it isn't going to help things.

Wtih little L-plates covering her nipples when she takes her top off :lol:

Perhaps you should stop asking girls for coffee and start asking for coffee as long as they refuse to see anyone else until they have explained to youwhy they ddon't want to be with you in detail.

I'm not allowed to be upset then?

Perhaps you should stop asking girls for coffee and start asking for coffee as long as they refuse to see anyone else until they have explained to youwhy they ddon't want to be with you in detail.

Coffee is serious shit.

Coffee is serious shit.

"wanna come to my rape dungeon... For coffee?"