Son of a bitch :lol:
Only a married man could fold bed sheets that well. I legit thought my Mum had done it :lol:

:lol: Dino, pv4 and I were scheming how to mess with you when he darted in there, he came out of your room going "Guys, I only had time to strip the sheets" and I'm thinking "what the fuck took so long?" before I realised he'd folded the fucking things. :lol:

Perfect little pile on the floor :lol:
Ohhh Lordy, what a night :lol:

You're just lucky that's all he left in a pile on the floor...

More to the point... How can any man be that hammered and fold that neatly?!?!?!

I for one was impressed we made it from the pub :lol:

:cool:

This was a good thread once.

It seriously misses KC and AJohn though :(

So does Benjo. :p

Just fallen in love. Met her in my seminar at uni. An angel; softly spoken, polite, and stunningly beautiful. Spoke to her; suffice to say was giving a good account of myself as Donald Duck, babbling like an idiot.

Not really the relationship type, but this is something else.

What to do?
:-k

I was just wondering the other day what happened to KC.

has Benjo been around either? I've been rather abscent myself.

Gee, thanks for noticing :( [-(

I spoke to KC the other week, she's really busy with uni ATM.

Get your balls on and ask her out- doesn't have to be anything major. Even just a beer at the uni pub or something similar.

Sorry mate :p

And of course you're still in contact with her ;)

Edited by catbert: 30/3/2014 05:35:10 PM

I spent the weekend with someone very special to me. I know we feel the same way about each other, but our love is kept apart by the small fact that they are engaged to be married to someone else :(

Spoiled for choice, theres this stylish catholic chick ive been hanging out with

And its a constant friendzone with her as shes a Catholic

Whats up with that?

*note to self it can be anyone, and it can be no-one as well! *

Look up the Garfunkel & Oates song 'The Loophole'

Just something off google, hope this helps:

“If you want to strike, strike now. No matter how skillfully a footballer strikes beyond the 90 minutes' regulated time, he makes no influence. Strike now before it becomes too late!”

Strike before Britain re-arms.

You’re all my mates. If I knew you in real life, I’d invite you to my Unit for a BBQ on Grand Final Day.

Every time I seriously consider making things official and really pursuing the girl I've been 'seeing' for 4 months, another one just shows the slightest interest and I hesitate. Being totally single and unattached is SO much easier :(

Last night was great :D

Two of my best mates are involved in this shitty love triangle thing at the moment, and I think I'm after some advice on how I should be handling it from my side..

Let's call one guy A, and one guy B. And the girl can be called C.

I work with B. I've known A since I was 5 years old. I took 12 mates on my bucks party, consider them all my best mates, and 2 of them were A & B - that's my friendship level with them. And out of my 12 mates I took to my bucks party, I would say that A & B are (or were) closer than any of the other guys there - so they were practically best mates.

One day, A tells our friends group about a girl (C) he met at a party. No one knew her beforehand, she was a complete unknown. A hangs out with C, they become friends. For a few months it was looking like a friendzone type deal. Over time, he introduces her to us mates. I would say appearance wise she's an easy 8, but personality wise I would say < 6 as she's a bit of a weirdo. Anyway, A has barely had a girlfriend before in his life and has some lack of social skills at the bestof time, so him getting to know an 8 was a pretty big deal. He got keen on her, she wasn't keen on him. He got keen on someone else, C got keen on him and he didn't act on it. This sort of to-and-fro happened for months. They'd "hook up" in town on a seemingly regular occasion, and it was never quite clear to anybody if they were together or not. But, especially because A had introduced her into the friends circle etc - eveyrone just assumed it was "his girl" and stayed well away. Except for B. B would take her to the movies, would text random things, etc - all under the illusion of "oh, we're just friends". B is just as socially awkward, and girlfriend-less over time, as A was/is. So two awkward guys, seemingly after the same girl. A officially announced to everyone that him and C were together as a couple. Most of us just thought "well, about time". No one really knew that B had been side-tuning C. On multiple occasions of going to dinner/movies/hanging out/etc A would notice that C was texting, and when asking her about who it was to she would say it was to B. A got worked up about it, and said that it was uncool that she texted other dudes, particularly one of his best mates, while they were together. She saw it as non-threatening, and therefore waved it off as a small deal. A approached B and said that it felt like he was cutting his grass, so to speak, and politely asked him to stop it. B claimed it was not meant as a threat, was just a friends-type thing, and that he didn't realise he was overstepping the mark and would stop. It didn't stop. A told C he couldn't be together with her when this B & C thing was going on, regardless of how hectic it was. A & C spent the next month on-and-off working on it together, talking through it, etc - until one day C tells A that she has "hooked up" with B multiple times in town on drunken Wednesday & Saturday nights. A loses it. Spirals into a deep depression. Talks face-to-face with B about it and B just casually answers "you should have tied it up when you had the chance, it's not my problem". This was about a month after A & B were drunk in town together and B told A (drunkedly) that if he were to ever get married, A would be his best man. So B, cold as ice, slams A down & steals his mrs. A has reached out to me - I've had him over to my house multiple times for dinners and random FIFA sesh times, just to get him out of his own house and mind. He's upset as all hell. I'm trying to stay as impartial as I can, whilst still being a helping hand, as I haven't really heard B's side of the story (though, the more I hear, the less I can think B can be convincing tbh).

And to top it all off, on the weekend B & C went "facebook official" - just more pain for A. And probably the worst bit - C still texts him as if it is a normal thing to do.

So here I am, seemingly A's sponsor, but still putting on a workmates face with B. And I haven't hit up B about it as of yet, and am not sure how to deal with it. Part of me thinks I should be tearing strips off him, other parts of me tells me it'll only cause friend-and-work conflict that I don't need. Such mindfxxx

Edited by pv4: 22/4/2014 11:17:09 AM

From an impartial viewer, I can say that B is the douche here. He clearly cut his mate's grass. C knew what she was doing, chicks do this shit all the time, so do guys.

If B was a mate of A he should NEVER have tuned her up. I think you're right in being a good mate to A who has done nothing wrong. Keep B at an arms distance to be honest, smile and nod, but not much else. If you get a chance, have a quiet word with B and tell him to stop "showing her off" on fb as its disrespectful to A.

How about you tell everyone to stop dating teases and you all go out for a beer as the three brosketeers.

I'm thinking along these lines. My problem is, particularly because A is so socially awkward, I would normally (if B wasn't a workmate and/or best mate too) be fronting someone like B on behalf of A and letting him know that A can't stand up for himself, and that it is wrong what he has done. But the mate/workmate thing is preventing me from doing it, and I'm confused as to how I should feel about it all and how I should act (or not act).

Bitches be crazy - this chick, like I said, is <6 in personality. From the moment I met her ages ago, I told A she was a weirdo. His reply was "it's me, I'll take what I can get" - which made sense in the context. She is obviously the central theme of the problem, but both A & B are attached enough for it to create a mini domestic situation.

If they can't see the forest for the trees and realise that C is the common denominator of their woes and refuse to listen to your advice, there's nothing else you can do but let both A & B drown in their inevitable misery.

Hopefully one day they will click and both learn to have a little bit of self respect.

The real question is - why are you concerning yourself in the mistakes of others when you have already done all you can. What do you hope to achieve?

They're not thinking properly because they're letting their manhood do the thinking, not their brains.

I haven't actively gone out of my way to concern myself with it. A mumbling, crying mess of a person A on my doorstep is how I was introduced into it all. And he's getting in contact with me at least 3 times a week (has been going on for 3 weeks or so now) to either vent, cry or update me on things. The reason I'm still involved is I'm not in a space to tell a mate to ggf as it has nothing to do with me. I have to put on a brave face and talk him through his emotional stuff as much as he needs it, because that's how our friendship works. I attempt to treat others how I want to be treated, particularly friends. If I randomly pick a friend to cry on his shoulder, I'd want his shoulder well & ready for me tbh. And likewise, if I'm being a megadouche and have acted wrong, and it is completely evident so but I haven't figured it out - I want my mates to let me know, to bring me back to being a good guy and also to know they're looking out for me. So I feel like I should be doing this a bit to B, too.

The problem is this breakdown of friendship threatens to cause a divide in a bigger group of friends we're associated with. Already A has said to B "I hope this doesn't cause a divide between you and pv4 at work and as mates" - how can it not?

Like I said in the OP - I've attempted to stay as neutral and as realistic about it all as I can. But slowly & surely I'm getting the feeling I need to be a good mate to both A & B and approach B about his actions, for the sake of A, B & our entire group of friends.