Benjo, Mate...

If you want to make yourself a smaller target so people don't make jokes at your expense, this is pretty much the complete opposite to what you should do...

On the internet, no one knows who you are, and for many people that gives them a certain level of freedom to post whatever the hell they like, and therefore they post things that either makes them feel better, makes them laugh, whatever, and they don't care what the recipient thinks. Is that right? Probably not, is it reality? You bet!

If you can't handle this, get off the internet.

Now before KC has a go at me, i'm not being insensitive, i'm just pointing out some life facts to Benjo, you can not expect people to be sensitive towards your feelings on the internet. Sure it would be nice if everyone played nice, but when your ready to live in the real world...

This. There isn't a single person on here who hasn't felt put down or left out at some point in their lives. It sucks, and no matter how you meant it to be taken, or how jokey it was, it doesn't always come across that way. Depression's a bitch, and it does make you feel crap about yourself, and you (well, I anyway) tend to take things out of context, see negative comments even if they're not really there, and sometimes you do feel like the whole world is against you. He's just been diagnosed, I can imagine it would be a lot to take in. Just think about that.

Honestly everyone should back up.

Like MidfieldMaestro and benelsmore said, people react to things differently. The coffee thing got old fast, and just because you lot have bitches at the ready, other people aren't so lucky to have blinding confidence.

A joke used repeatedly is a joke that quickly stops being funny. Enough about the coffee.

Hopefully Ben is doing ok, people forget how people will react .

ITT: Everyone hopping on Benjo's dick because his feelings got hurt.

I know mate, but a lot of the guys on FFT are friends. People have each other on Facebook, many have met up, it's not like everyone is completely anonymous, or all strangers or anything.
I'm not going to have a go at you, I honestly didn't think I did that that often :lol:

Actually jlm I've had depression , I was on meds for two years I know what he is going through you don't go to a woman who has pnd and go to them get over it.

C'mon dude, I'm sure you've had people say stuff that kind of hurt before.

Give it rest. Don't be a dick to the rest of us for calling time on the bullying.

That wasnt anything against Benjo, it was more he said his thing then suddenly he's everyone's favourite forumer. Sorry if it translated wrongly.

Well then, if they are Benjo's mate and they are teasing him, then they're pretty shit mates.

If the offenders aren't Benjo's mates however and don't know him, then my original point stands.

I'm not trying to be a jerk, i'm just being realistic. You can never expect people to care about you on the internet, wouldn't it be nice if we lived in a world were you could, but we don't!

It's not personal, its actually the complete opposite actually, people only do it because they DON'T know him.

Chin up Benjo



Edited by RJL25: 22/1/2013 09:56:08 PM

I can see how Benjo can take it badly as well. I haven't had depression for a fair few years now, but I've got bipolar disorder and it doesn't take that much for me to jump between moods. jlm, you're sticking up for the right to essentially pick on someone for being different and dealing with things differently. I can understand what RJ is on about but that doesn't make it alright.

Like I said, just give the coffee shit a rest. Bring it back when Benjo gets a girl, when he's more likely to see the funny side.

Sorry, but you really need to be told this.

You tell us via this post that you have been 'bullied' your whole life, and have 'learnt to take it'. - This is where your problems lie. You have submitted defeat to these 'douches', giving them the license to fuck about with you as much as they want.

You need to know that every single fucking human on this planet is equal. We are all made of the substance, there is nothing that seperates us other than one's willpower. Think about it, you are being knocked around by (what are essentially) bags of meat.

I urge you to put your foot down in real life. This has nothing to do with an internet forum, you wouldn't care about the shit you cop on here if you weren't so angsty about your life in general. You seem like a good guy, and it's perfectly fine to be sensitive, but stand your ground pls.

My apologies for the misunderstanding.

I just think the jokes should stop since they have now gone beyond just jokes.

Of course it doesn't make it right, but that doesn't make it any less real!

If we all lived in a world that was right, then there would be no such thing as depression, but we live in a world that is REAL, and we all have to learn to live with that or this world is gonna spit us out the other side.

Seriously, I (unfortunately) know what i'm talking about here

Yeah, don't let people give you crap. It's not fun to be walked all over.

And what your saying is that its ok to pick on him when he feels like it ffs.

And show me where I advocated bullying, would be great thanks. Having a differing opinion to someone does not constitute bullying ( I'm assuming that you believe me saying that we're allowed to call out petty behavior is condoning bullying)

WGMG: This thread not being about grinding gears.

-PB

Yeah, Remember the nhub account? Jlm copped pretty bad shit on that...





































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Honestly I reckon that Benjo and KC get dealt a lot of shit. Most of the time its laughed off, but sometimes it is a bit over the top. However they're more vulnerable to that stuff because they open their lives up more so to these forums than others, and hence a lot of the jokes are valid/its the internet.

But to be fair, its the constant upbringing of old jokes that have no connection to what KC/B posted about in the first place that is the issue. The use of those are just simply bullying tactics. Have your cheap laughs once or twice, and then move on to new material.

Keep at it lads. I applied for a shitload of jobs (about 30) and heard back from just 1, didn't get the job. Where I DID get a job from was putting out feelers with contacts, talking to friends in the industry etc. Ask around. You'll get more jobs out of word of mouth and mates. The last three jobs and two functions I've worked have all been through word of mouth.

This. Everyone on here comes on here and cops flak at some point in time.

You don't get to come on here, post intimate details about your life and then complain and accuse everyone of being horrible people because you didn't get the bleeding heart response you were fishing for.

Benjo, I've got nothing against you personally and can understand you don't want to be reminded about the pain of your relationship dramas. I don't care if I sound like a dick, but seriously if non malicious and intentionally innocent internet comments set you off like this, how the fuck do you survive in the real world?

TBH the rant just exemplifies a part of the reason why you cop so much shit imo, not because you're sensitive or an easy target, but because on occasion you post with a naivety and insensitivity that ostracizes yourself from the rest of us and definitely doesn't endear yourself with anyone, and I'd wager this could be the case elsewhere. There was a right way to make your feelings known, you could have simply told us that you're not laughing along with us anymore and that you're going through a tough time at the moment and would appreciate some understanding, instead you had a whinge and vilified rather than straight up reason with us.

WGMG: My girlfriend copping verbal abuse from an ex-friend. I mean I don't mind being woken up at 1am in the morning with work tomorrow if I cheered her up and gave her an easier sleep, but I do mind people being bitches to people I care about. And furthermore...

WAGMG: Not being able to sleep again after hanging up.

Edited by AJohn: 23/1/2013 12:48:45 AM

He went to a private school didn't he?

WGMG: Pretty sure AF has finally gone full retard.

Actually came into this thread to post this :lol:

This is just the difference between a society like Australia vs the United States.

In Australia we all just jump online, and voice our frustrations on meaningless internet forums. In America you pick up and gun and take it out on people in schools, shopping malls, and movie theaters.

In Iraq they just blow themselves up.

Which thread/s?

I had a look to see what had set everyone off this time. The first thread on the page, "why does every player want to join sydney fc" was about as far as I got.

So if Benjo was an american, he'd have exterminated an entire classroom?