Ive been roped into organising a bucks party for a mate, hes pretty much stated what he wants and doesn't want.
He wants a Backyard do in the arvo, no strippers, then to a few pubs.
 we have the booze and the food and some drunk lawn games sorted, we tend to be a fairly competitive bunch. 
Just looking for something that would replace the entertainment strippers would normally fill.

Anyone have any ideas or been to any partys that have been pretty chilled with something a bit different.

Its a pretty tight budget as weve recently had bucks parties that have cost up $250. (And not worth it at all) so alot of people are a bit over it. 

I know we sound old.

Make it a grand, allow strippers, then we will talk.

I forget where you live but..

I organised my cousins bucks party that had similar requirements except the money wasn't that big an issue.

We ventured down to Penrith and went white water rafting at their man made place down there.. and stayed at the wakeboard park (which was cheap accom.. like school camp bunk beds specs in one big room) and wakeboarded. and did pubs etc.

It was something hugely different, good extreme-esque fun. It cost a couple of hundred each, no doubt, but a great weekend away and exciting enough for all the boys in replace of the usual strippers etc. 

To start with just as i've told my mates when they were getting married the bucks party isn't about them its about their mates so they can just shut the fuck up and go along for the free ride. What that means is get the strippers. He doesn't have to look if he doesn't want to.

My mate organised my bucks party and it was awesome. We stayed in the city and got a bus out to go white water rafting, paint balling, go karting, booked in at bavarian beer cafe for dinner then to top it all off we had an NRL grandfinal cruise on the harbour with a full strip show on the dodgiest boat with the dodgiest mother fucking skipper you've ever seen.

Wonderful time had by all

Yeah... all this stuff is way over the top for this guy, he just wants good craft beer, a decent bbq or something similar (he's vegan) and then maybe a few decent bars. 

Strippers are a non negotiable, the cost is too astronomical and he just simply doesn't want it. Ive been to about 20 bucks parties (around Melbourne and geelong) including my own and only ever had one decent strip show, which was unreal but the rest were mostly terrible.

We just want some activity to replace the strippers at the bbq that is going to be like we didnt even miss strippers.

We may at the end of the night go to the one dodgy strippers in geelong if people want. 

Sounds like your mate is entering into a same sex marriage.

Whats the other buck doing?

Hahaha oh man... honestly, there arent too many people that are embracing this marital alliance, i actually don't know anyone who actually likes her. I am actually enemy number one in her eyes. He was forced to go vegan, this guy is a meat smoking bbqing obseesed guy who went vegan over night, she has bullied and broken his soul and he's practically a trainwreck of a man. 

Just last night when we asked for contact numbers for all the people he wants at his bucks he said "can you message my mrs the invite for her dad, as he doesnt use his phone"
We all laughed, what a fucking joke the bloke uses his phone everyday for work, she just wants to know what's going on. She tried to hijack my bucks party by arriving at the final venue! Glad to say before i arrived my wife (who hates her) and a bunch of her friends had to go around and drag her out, she's fucking nuts!

On top of this at their engagement they decide to draw names from a hat to see who would change their last name, her name came out so he is taking her name. We got the hat and there were 10 lots in it... 8 her name... 2 hers. Ahhhhhh...

Sidetracked much... also he wanted me to be best man but she don't, so there isn't one. Hahaha

Wedding is late april, they still haven't told us if weve got to buy suits or anything, she just wanted a grooms party to do work for her, they've got fuck all organised for the wedding and im loving it, we would Have had our first child by then so i might be very difficult and unavailable ALOT!

Man this story is better than anything on TV at the moment.  Someone from Channel 9 needs to get in contact with you.

Well clearly you need to think up the most depraved bucks do ever and send that text to her ASAP.  Include details such as baby oil, strap-on dildos, farm animals and a rubber/gimp suit in there as well.  Just punch out a new text every couple of days just to her (on the pretext it's going to the Dad) ramping up the depravity each time.

So many opportunities for mayhem here.

Yeah, that was essentially the plan, either that or exceptionally vague.  Honestly though, i just probably won't message anything. 

As for the buck, he is one of the best guys and for a while everyone felt really bad for the way he is treated and he asked for alot of advice but he didn't take it and so you can only feel bad for so long.

They are yet to get invites out, this is a wedding that's already cost over $30k, they haven't done anything. I wondered whether the stalling of planning was them both trying to back out but they are so lazy it would be easier for them to just go through with it. 

Your mate is a fucking idiot

bucks party without tits and fanny is not a bucks party.

I’m in the same boat mate. Got my own bucks party in a couple months, pretty concerned as my best mans organising it and he’s a fucking menace (100% Alan from Hangover). Go-karts and paintball sound like lots of fun then on to the pubs. Fuck strippers, too expensive and kinda disgusting.

Yeah man, we had one a month ago and we did paintballing... thats probably the 6th time ive done it for a bucks party. Ive also done go karts but they are so shitty around here.
We had a fantastic stripper show about 5 years ago, they were rediculously hot, not plastic looking or haggered like most I've seen, they put an absolutely amazing show and after they were just chilled normal girls. Since then nothing has measured up and has been really shit.

The other thing, who do you guys invite to a bucks party. For most it almost seems as though they just want every male invited to the wedding, for me i only had a dozen close mates, some bucks partys have literally had 60 people!

Not too late for either of them to come to their senses

If not strippers atleast hire topless barmaids. The stripper my mate hired for mine brought two friends who went topless and just g strings on in his backyard mingling with the guys while the stripper herself got ready. I reckon 3 different blokes had told them they loved them within the hour. They were good value, and probably on par if not more entertaining than the actual strip show.

Just don't do this haha



-PB

I totally saw that the other day! 

Man, she sounds mental. Was she his first serious girlfriend? If not she must be amazingly "liberal" in the bedroom aha

I still think some of you are insanely cliche and lame to still think you have to have strippers to have a good party but whatever floats your boat.

Haha... from all reports her bedroom form is limited to non existant. Definitely not first serious relationship, id say hes had 3 serious ones previously. All somewhat more dominant than the last but only one that had a somewhat likeable personality. One thing that he did do though, was cheat on all of them, with the current fiance being the other woman each time so i guess they deserve each other.
However she was controlling him in a very sickening way since they met 15 years ago.
She then leant him alot of money and paid debt off for him, he was always hesitent to be in a relationship with her but they would always hook up but i think the money thing and their friendship formed into some sick relationship, he wanted to leave but he was so beholden to her financially ( he earned more than her after he finished uni but she did the finances) she always made out he owed her.
They finally bought a house and he did mention once that if he was ever going to leave that was the time as all their money was in the house in both names so it would easier for him to be independent. 
She really fucked him up. We had a falling out for about 2 years because of her. She then realised i wasnt the only one that hated her and realised if she did what she did to me to everyone that thought the same as me she wouldn't even have her own partner.

But still i do like a party, even for all the wrong reasons and people will press him to leave as they never see him without her

Wow fuck Trainwreck in slow motion.

-PB

Scubaroo, didn't you post about the same relationship in another thread? What grinds my gears or something? Sad to see the bloke is still going ahead with it. 

Or wasn't it your mates or someone else's whose fiance wanted to be at the Bucks to make sure it was all tame? :D

Yeah same dude!

I can't remember but i think i may have posted about the fact his missus was interferring with my bucks party as he and two other were organising it, the other two guys were wirking FIFO at the time so they didn't know she was messing with stuff when they were working and obviously i didn't know. 

But at my bucks party we had a pub crawl then back to one of the groomsmens houses for stripper and food etc, one of the groomsmens wives is greek so she was at the house setting up a rotisserie for gyros while we were at the pubs and she would get a call to leave 5 mins before we got to the house but this other guys missus just rocked up and wouldnt leave, so my wife and her friend were called to drag this cow out of the place.  

She actively tried to sabotage my bucks party and in the end my mate was told to go home by about 10pm.
She is so controlling, once i found out i called her and him and blasted both of them, i really don't have anything to do with her but she's obviously everywhere!

Jesus. 

scubaroo you need to smack this mate of yours around a bit.
Life is fecking hard enough as it is - with a partner like that this is wrong.
He's in purgatory going to hell.
Wake him up - get some pussy walking around topless and thongs for sure, bring him around again you got to help out a fellow brother !

Mate, weve tried, my wifes best friend who is very attractive was really into him, she is so far out of his league though, she was keen to hook up with him but he is so preoccupied with his mrs, even when she's not around.

However, he confides in a very close friend of mine alot about his relationship and how bad it is (he won't tell me though because he knows what i think of her) but anyway... he claimed hes in love with a girl he plays indoor with. Ive seen them together and youd think they were together, she's far far nicer than the current mrs. Its all pretty sad, weve all done things, said things to try and get them apart but he is such a broken man. 

Is he scared of what she might do if he breaks it off with her?

She just has amazing control over him, she manipulates everything he does. She gets a job in the city, so hes has to, she gets a job in the suburbs he has to.
Even just little things like if were all going to dinner or drinks or whatever, she will say she will drive, so she drives, they once they get there she will tell him she's not feeling well and can't drive home, so then she drinks all night and he has to drive.
If hes doing something without her, which almost never happens, she will always do something so that she shows up or he has to leave. 

On the surface he looks normal but i think hes just had the life sucked out of him.  He can't make decisions for himself, he has to ask her what he wants when hes out for lunch etc. Hes programmed to do what she says, but not in the sense of a guy that might be under the thumb, far far worse. 

He's scared to leave because his family all live elsewhere and his support system is his friends, which are also her friends (to a degree) and though everyone would totally understand if he ended it, i think he feels no one would help him. 

It is always a massive point of discussion. 

Sabotage the relationship.

Mate you can't let this go on.
All your bringing up is excuse's, I'm not being rude here just saying you can't sit back anymore and think nothing else can be done.
What a pathetic bucks night to even consider.
Control freak central, this will never be a happy ending in the first place so you got to step up pal.

 the buck night and the relationship are two seperate things.
A. There is no way there will be interference from her on the night, she will know nothing and his phone will be confiscated.

B. If your argument is about the lack of strippers, that is simply because he just isn't interested, and if he is on the night we can go to them.

C. Yes, the relationship is fucked, hes been told to get out when hes confided, people have offered all sorts of help. Hes been offered beds to stay, counselling, he has a well pating job in the public service so hed get back on his feet pretty quickly. But realistically you cant help those who won't help themselves. 

I've been battling her for 10 years, id called them both out after the cheating he did while he was in relationships with friends of mine, cause that kind of thing isn't in his nature. 
To get this straight, shes also never been in a relationship with anyone else, shes extremely unattractive, a bully, manipulative and has a shitty attitude towards friends. 

His bucks will be good, boobs or not, its going ahead regardless because, why not? Hopefully the wedding doesnt. I just wanted some alternative ideas.

Nothing about the strippers mate.
Just about a mate who can't help himself, life is too damn short to caught up in a web like that.

Have a mate. Mid 40s. Fit and happy as anything. Such a cool head and life-loving bloke. His wife of 20 years, who rocks a cross between a peacock and 80s hairstyle, is an absolute witch.

Out of the blue she calls it off for her to announce she's in a relationship with a local 20 year old girl. This is a small German village. Everyone knows each other. He wears this shit for a good year in the hope it'll just be a phase. But wait, she wants to have him and her girlfriend. So he's dragged around town to cafes and anywhere else embarrassed as hell as everyone wonders why his wife was seen kissing and holding someone 20 years younger in public.

A point comes where they have decent distance. We say it's still his call to make but urge him to go on this New York tour trip with other Germans, the majority singles. With his attitude and outlook on life, he'd be the most eligible bachelor at his age. He eventually decides against going abroad. We'd felt he would have learnt the joys of freedom and perhaps even met someone on the tour. We felt he'd met his dream woman on a train to Frankfurt when he sat next to her and helped her with heavy diving equipment. They chatted for 3 hours non stop.

Unfortunately he keeps holding onto that past relationship from 20 years ago. He's still a slave and is ordered to clean or do other shit while Bundesliga is on. He needs to ask for permission to meet up and often has his plans sabotaged at the last minute and will be a victim of intimidation. 

He earns well and is healthy and fit. If he could only cut this tie his standard of life would go through the roof. Oh yeah, his wife also demands they go to Belgium for 4 weeks every year essentially eating up most of his annual leave. 

I wonder how things might be in 10 years if this continues. 

Mate... seriously that's like looking into the future.
My mate isn't allowed to play outdoor football anymore because he has to spend sunday making lunches for work for the whole week.
He has to use a few weeks a year to help her dad fix up stuff on his property.

Just last night a few friends went to a birthday dinner with this couple, they had a huge row because he forgot the birthday card and she was pissed because he didn't think it was as big of a deal as she did. I don't know exactly what was said but one of the girls had a chat to him and she asked if he was happy in the relationship and he said "no". Seriously what the fuck. 

Sorry LFC. misunderstood.
Seriously though, can't help those who won't help themselves. 
We're having this bucks regardless.

Random as suggestion but... 


For my sisters fiance. I bought 2 roombas. Put on the table with cups of beer on top and play beer pong. 
Another one i did was rent out a small cinema. Connected a ps4 fifa beers and popcorn. They also had arcade machines was quite fun

This is an extremely entertaining thread.   

So this is from a while back (nearly 2 years) but thought id give a bit of an update.

The bucks party was good but just like an average night. 
The wedding was fucked and was a full weekend of work because the venue required set up to be done by the clients.

The "maid of honor" left early after the wedding cause she was exhausted,  she is a good friend and we both knew this shit was a mistake.

Anyhow 1 year of wedded bliss which was apparently 12 months of the wife hooking up with randoms infront of her and his friends (not me) and the husband knew but was in denial.  To eventually they ended it.

He moved into the maid of honours house,  she needed a house sitter as she went on a 2 month holiday,  she came back. 2 months later they are an item. WTF? Thought it was a joke then thought maybe they were hooking up but i know she wouldn't lie to Me because she knows id have been ok with it. 

The wife has been travelling interstate seeing a guy and now we know that had been going on for up to a year.

All very screwed up.
How do people get into this shit.

Not sure if this new relationship will last,  full on for him to leave an abusive relationship and jump into another but they went to counselling before they jumped in so we shall see where this all goes. 

Safe to say,  the wife stopped talking to a bunch of us pretty quickly,  not complaining. Three divorce is going to be messy, 2 houses,  a dog she doesn't want but knows he does so she won't let him see it. Very crazy. 

Geez. For me I really don't enjoy confrontation, awkwardness and crossing paths of those who've done something bad or outrageous. I'm too nice and feel obliged to say hi. The best I can do is keep it clean with a simple 'Hi, how are you?' Reminds me of the Seinfeld episode where Kramer shuns Jerry's ex. I see a lot of friend's exes who I've been on good terms with but then they see me and clearly get where my loyalty lies but sense I generally can't have anything to with them post relationship. I'm stuck in the middle and generally get along with everyone.

So glad to see an update. As to my anecdote my mate is still in the same bind and has become more moody and erratic but we've all given up. Another mate in the group keeps going on about it when the other isn't there and when we drink he won't shut up and then a tirade about the other starts. I just say 'yeah, he's off doing his thing. It's matchday. Talk about happy things.'

What a little bitch that husband was for not doing anything about her ' hooking up with randoms'  

I truly believe that psychological abuse and emotional domestic violence in relationships is a far greater issue than physical domestic violence.  Firstly it affects more people and secondly it’s affects are far more likely to lead to things like depression, anxiety and suicide.  I also believe that feminists, media and academics know about this elephant in the room but refuse to talk about it as it implicates as many women as it does men, as women tend to dispense aggression via emotional abuse and manipulation rather than physical violence.  Anyway I think this is the conversation Australia needs to have.

this is why people some people should not have kids when they are in a toxic relationship 

Absolutely. I went back and read Scuba's posts here from the start and I was thinking 'If the gender roles were reversed, can you imagine how differently the general response would be?' It sickens me that we live in such an arse-backwards society that the concept of men being on the receiving end of emotional/ physical abuse in relationships is treated lightly or even laughed at because "he probably deserves it, lol pussywhipped". Meanwhile ads would have you believe that even correcting your missus equals "Mate- that's abuse."

Bill burr is a stand up comedian he brings up these points a lot 

I saw some campaign recently about trying to call out verbal abuse in a relationship. Things like 'she shouldn't have to ask twice' or 'she knows it's a routine, why has it changed?' are apparently verbal abuse from a man and should be called out. How on earth is it abuse when it's often said in jest or the action of another is so erratic and bewildering that we react in such a way? It's basically saying 'what the hell?' 

Now if it were the other way 'Don't ask your father, he's useless' or 'He's a man and therefore pathetic.' Suddenly that's all fair game? Recently at a store I asked to speak to the bloke who had sorted my contract and the female said 'He's a man so he'll be a while stuffing around with something useless before he can get to you.' Can you imagine if a male worker said that about a female colleague to a female customer? I sort of said 'ok' and just waited thinking it was an odd remark. Years ago this stuff would've gone right over my head and I may have even laughed but now, sadly, there's this radar recognizing all this rubbish.

Bang on- that's the one I was thinking of.

A (female) friend of mine on Fb a month or so ago posted some article about a woman in Melbourne who was murdered by her (male) partner, and one of her (female) friends posted a comment going "MeN aRe TrAsH". I checked out this girls' profile and it appears she has a male s/o. I don't know how beta this guy is, but if that was my missus and I saw that comment I'd be telling her to delete it and apologise for being disrespectful to me, the men in her family and all the men who helped her to get where she is. And if she thought I was being unreasonable, I'd next her. I have no time for this kind of disrespect and if I ever went "wOmEn ArE tRaSh" you know the amount of shit that would get flung my way.

However my greatest level of disdain is for white-knights who lampoon any man who speaks up about this shit as being some MRA incel fragile broflake deadbeat dad. Like not only does it reek of projection (especially the bit about being mentally fragile and struggling to get their sexual needs met) but rather than listen to their fellow man- decent men- they throw other men under the bus like the good like boot-licker that they are, allowing our "equal" society to continue. 

So it's impossible for me to disagree with anything you say because if I do I'm 'projecting' and/or 'throwing you under the bus' and I'm a 'boot-licker' and/or a 'white-knight'?

Cool. Carry on then.

What now?

Of course people can disagree. Fairly certain Capt is referring to those cucks who’d much rather label you as sexist/racist/misogynistic/MRA etc than have a adult balanced conversation regarding these shortcomings in current society.

Thanks- this is exactly what I meant.

I saw the other day a woman wrote on facebook "I've been given permission (NOT that I need to ask for it!!) to do this holiday without husband to blah blah blah" and the comments were full of women writing "you go girlfriend" and "yasssss queen" and "live your best life #bliss" etc. And it made me instantly think any time most fellas in my life want to do anything outrageous it's all about how many brownie points you've previously or in future collated, "how'd you swing that one past the mrs" and people quite literally say you're abandoning your family for your own selfish needs or whatever. It astounds me at times how inconsistent some of these social vibes are depending on which gender is on which side of it - and this example I'm talking about isn't even related to something as hectic as physical/emotional abuse.

On this bucks party dude, I want to put the "well that escalated quickly" meme in but it wasn't even a quick escalation, from the first details you handed us it was all too clear how ugly this was going to turn. Hopefully you, your friends group, etc never hear from this wife again because she sounds like an arsehole. 

So my brother just got engaged, although considering that his partner is a bloke I guess that means there'll be two bucks parties? Probably safe to rule out the strippers on this occasion unfortunately lol

Or male strippers?

Funny you mention that.  The lesbian at my wife's work had a hen's night that my wife said she was going to.  The first thing I asked was 'who decided who the 'hen' was?' 

Do they both have a 'hen's' night?  Are they combined?  Does one have a buck's night? Are there female strippers?

So many unanswered questions.



Women, they're strange cattle.  


 

I remember having this discussion at my mini buck's night (the family one before the real one with my mates), and my mates were playing a joke on my teen cousin to convince him that they were gay. There was a funny joke, but I forget it, but something to do with "Who's the buck?" or something along those lines

Some friends of mine had a joint "Hucks" party (Hens + Bucks.. there were no strippers but I did strip) so apparently anything is fair game even in a hetero relationship

A 'hucks'!?  Way to fuck up a perfectly fine tradition.

Isn't the engagement party the 'joint' party?

What happened with this guy’s mate?


anyways I’m at the age now where everyone is getting married and I’m probably up there. What are some bucks party ideas? I’d love to watch an a league match in a box or something similar 

Mine was a couple years ago too. I basically set the only rule as 'no strippers' as well. 
But my mates organised a weekend in Melbourne around the WWE PPV that was there.

If you want to watch an AL match for your bucks, do it as an away game. Do something like Jerks away, and you and your 10 or so mates just run riot in a different city. 

peeves doing his part to boost the Newy economy



-PB

Would you like to know more....

I wanna come see you in the fam so badly :(

I'm gonna be down for a wedding next July, so gonna slap some time on to that at the bare min to see you.

-PB

I’ve actually done Newcastle away and I loved it would definitely consider going there for my bucks even if city wasn’t playing. 

You ask, i tell.

From the previous post, my friend is still in the new relationship so that's been going over 12 months,  they are a much different couple than the previous relationship,  he can go to the toilet without permission. 
He was bleeding cash, paying 2 mortgages and rent for a while because he didn't have the balls to get shit done.  He, his ex and the current partner all have this ability to have the inability to get anything done ever. Anyhow, he finally (after wasting many thousands of dollars) insisted he'd move into one of the houses they own so he and his new missus are living there,  a divorce is still in the process and he and his partner will be buying his current place outright while the ex will take on the bigger place,  he has accepted the advice that pushing for more is just pushing for more debt,  which is true. 

As for the ex, i don't know much about how but what i see is people talking her up, making her out to be this amazingly empowered woman,  when she was really just manipulative, deceitful, brutal and abusive.
Pre covid she was offered a job interstate,  she couldn't take the dog,  so she just told him the dog would stay with her parents and they don't want to see him so they won't be sharing the dog with him... wtf... it was his and her dog, if she can't care for it then it's his. Anyway,  she lost the job so... yeah. 

That's it for now. 

thanks for the update hope you and your mate have a good end to the year 

Done a couple of bucks in the last 2 years and both were interstate and recommend doing this.

First one was in Brisbane which was a bit of an odd city choice but did some pretty cool things like axe throwing and then went down to GC the next day for top golf with a drinks package and that was probably the highlight activity, was pretty fun taking a mini bus back to Brisbane with multiple slabs.

Second trip was Sydney which I enjoyed a fair bit more, the main event we went to was Octoberfest at Hyde Park which was a great day out.
Made the buck dress in the Octoberfest dress and everyone had sticks with the bucks head on it which was very amusing. 
The following day we did bare foot bowls and drinks at North Sydney which was decent for day drinking.
We had unreal weather so it helps when it's mid to late 20's everyday makes it that much better. 

I’m a best man for a bucks party of five people for a very quiet guy any ideas?

I'd vibe you'd need to do something where an instructor takes over and you have a day mapped out kinda thing. Those kinda guys usually like when the system dictates what you do. 

Depending how active he and the others are? Do something like a private booking at a recreation centre where you climb ropes and flying fox etc. Or do something like find a place that you learn to throw axes, followed by pub and beers etc. And/or if you have enough land available, hire a jumping castle and have a fire and beers type deal. 

Thanks mate I think a road trip followed by an activity and then finish off with dinner and drinks us pretty solid 

I took my cousin's bucks to a white water rafting + wakeboarding place. Perfect if in season, depends when your party is. 

Enjoy pal, let us know what you end up doing. 

Will do I want to have my own bucks party in Newcastle probably 2023 so might need some more advice from you lol 

Well my first piece of advice is if you're already planning on a wedding that long away, it's going to be an expensive wedding :lol: 

what is the quiet guys interests ? and or ticks his box's ?

He likes activities like bowling or mini golf so something different and unique would be a hit. He doesn’t want strippers either.