I'm pretty sure I wasn't the one who called him a douche.

Ok, no. but him saying what he said to you, upsetting you, and now all of a sudden you want to date him?

I overreacted about what he had said. At the end of the day I just need to grow up, and it's about time I was in a relationship.

About time you were in a relationship? Ok m8 settle your tits down here. There is no predetermined time that you need to be in a relationship by. Do what YOU want, not what you think OTHERS want you to do. Rushing into a relationship for the sake of being in a relationship will end in one way and one way only - tears, sadness and complaining on these forums, which none of us want ;)

For the love of god this.

I'm 18 and I've never had a boyfriend, clearly I'm doing something wrong here. Will keep it off the forums.

:lol:

This guy is actually going to Alpha his way into an abusive relationship with a girl that doesn't like him.

No relationship >>>>> unhappy, imbalanced, stupid relationship.

Dating someone just because YOLO or for any other stupid reason other than you actually want to be with them is, well, stupid.

You cannot be serious. Who fucking cares if you're 18 and have never had a boyfriend? What does that matter? Why are you letting something like that define and consume you? ALl that's going to happen is you'll rush your way into a shithouse relationship and you'll end up worse off that before. BE PATIENT.

Ad I'm 18 and have been rejected by three girls. Clearly I'm doing something wrong, but that doesn't fucking mean I'm just going to start a relationship with anyone who will say yes.

Have fun being pushed around by the way.

Also, what makes it worse is KC has told me some of the stuff the guy has said :lol: He seems like an absolute dropkick.

Cheers, I will (Y)

Just FYI though Ben, private messages have that name for a reason.

Edited by KiwiChick1: 8/4/2013 11:44:55 AM

Fuck me dead.

-PB

Sure you will. You're a ranga

HIGH DRAMA

He's not abusive.

He isn't. He won't hurt me.

benjo won't be getting no pm's for a while, one would think

:lol:

This. :lol:

:lol: It was completely unnecessary for him to make those comments.

We'll see.

Wrong thread, nm

Edited by benjo: 8/4/2013 02:31:47 PM

Physically or psychologically? Because playing stupid games and being a cunt in general counts as the latter.

EDIT: Might as well contribute that I'll be going to lunch with the previously mentioned sporadically-replying girl. Boom.

Edited by ual: 8/4/2013 05:16:33 PM

well this is getting interesting.

The thread that is, not my life.

Yeah we knew your life was boring bro ;)

Okay KC, I'm going to give the one thing I've ever learned from my 25 years of life.

You seem very similar to me, in that you put others before yourself. And that's great, personally it's one of my favourite traits about myself. But there comes a time where you need to do what you feel is right, and what you, and only you, actually want. Don't get into a relationship because everyone else has definitely had a boyfriend or girlfriend by your age and therefore there must be something wrong with you (there isn't), or get into one because this guy is pressuring you into one. On the flip-side, don't miss out on being with someone because people on a forum about football tell you not to.

Ultimately it's your choice. It's what you want to do. Don't do things because someone said one thing, or do things because other people have love lives, do things when you yourself think "you know, I'm not ready/I really want this to happen." If you don't know what to do, go to a quiet place, sit down, and think about everything that could go right, and everything that could go wrong, and don't leave until you feel like you're closer to a decision that you want to make for your reasons. You are not a passenger to your life, letting other people force you into taking a path, you're the driver. It's your decisions.

TL/DR What jlm said below

As a sidenote, went to dinner with this girl I met at a party a month ago. Nothing official, I'll see how things go when we chill at mine on Wednesday.

Edited by AJohn: 8/4/2013 08:05:01 PM

Wait just to confirm, this is the same Benjo who threw a tantrum when criticised about his 'relationship' problems.

This is fucking gold :lol: :lol:

Kiwichick, don't let anyone tell you what to think. Trust your own decisions, if it goes bad, you can only learn from them. Thats the only advice anyone should be able to give.

Alternatively she could take our advice and not rush into a shitty relationship because she feels social pressure to do so...

Its her choice to make. You have no idea whether or not it will be shitty, she obviously believes that it might work. Why not let her try?