Benjo and kc would actually make the best couple.

Benjo doesn't lift enough weights.

Benjo, get on it.

It would be a trainwreck :lol:

Channel 7 and 10 would fucking love it, but! :lol:

Are lots of guys keen on PDAs? Personally it makes me really uncomfortable, but...

If it makes you uncomfortable, don't do it.

It's not quite that simple for me.

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God damn women logic.

But what? do you have no power over how someone acts or interacts with you? are you in a relationship where you are a submissive?

Please. You control your relationship and how people interact with you where ever you are. You simply have to talk to the person involved adn explain your boundries.

If you can't do this you are not ready to interact with society and should immediately return to social isolation until you are ready to take charge of your life.

You have to be able to communicate in a relationship kc, otherwise it all breaks down badly and no one knows what the fuck just happened. If you don't like it, just tell the guy that and that you're really only comfortable displaying affection in private.

Oh FFS guys, massive overreaction, I'm meaning I'm not the one initiating it, and he doesn't take no for an answer easily. I was just asking a general question whether guys in general like showing the fact that they're with a girl, or whether it's more of a personal thing.

Palm.

Okay, I'm so done with this thread. I just can't say anything right.

Really, you guys don't have to be so condescending about this stuff. I know nothing about relationships, and it isn't as fucking instinctive as everyone else seems to think. I'm way out of my depth here, but I'm really sick and tired of being treated like a child.

Yeah, I know there's not an exact thing that all relationships follow, but I'm trying to figure out whether I'm just kind of uncomfortable with stuff because it's completely new to me, or because things aren't happening quite as they should be. It doesn't really help when I just feel like I'm being laughed at though.

This is not ok.

This is controlling, abusive behaviour.

The chances of you turning into a domestic violence victim is growingby the day.

I know that I have taken the piss out of you a bit lately, but like I said through PM I am actually growing more and more concernedwwith your safety.

It's frustrating that everyone sees it except for you.

I can see it, I just thought I was worrying over nothing though. I don't want to believe that he would hurt me, but do you actually think it's that serious?

No means no, and you should only have to say it once.

If he is laughing at you or making you feel uncomfortable then he is not the one for you, sure it is okay to be nervous, unsure and even a little scared about something's ...especially if it is all new, but the right person won't laugh at you or make you feel uncomfortable....sounds to me like you are making a mistake being with this guy...a big mistake.

Be safe.



Edited by Joffa: 12/4/2013 10:08:46 PM

Things won't get better over time. He's already exerting controlling behaviour, I genuinely believe that he will be dangerous in the future if he isn't already.

Pretty much what RedKat said.

Personally, I'm not a fan of it. I have friends who are conjoined at the mouth, and nothing can separate them, and I have friends who you wouldn't even think they're dating. It all depends on what both people agree on. From what you've said about this guy, if he's making fun of you/making you feel uncomfortable and not taking no as an answer, I'd be suspicious of what his intentions are. No one should be pressured into doing anything they're uncomfortable with, and if he can't respect your wishes, he isn't someone you want to be with

I find myself agreeing with notor 100% on this. KC, I know you like to see the good in everyone, but there is a massive, massive risk you're running at the moment.

And don't worry about the condescending. I know exactly how it's like to be naive with relationships myself.

Are we still talking about the KC soap opera? AFter what...10 pages now?

kc just think about it this way:

- dude refuses to take no for an answer
- you feel uncomfortable when he does things he wants to do & you clearly don't

now predict for me the scenario when you two wind up in a bed, you say you're not ready to bang (#puttingitnicelydoesn'tchangewhatitis) and he's hell keen to. how exactly do you think it's gonna go down?

Sorry, not sorry. Don't like it? Don't read it.

Afro absolutely fuming that his boring, made up hook-up stories gaining no traction at all

I've been wit mah girl like fave years ay, dun need nun of dat tongue in throat shit.

I ain't 16 niggaz, don't need no attention.

-PB

Thanks to everyone who's given me advice, sorry for annoying you all.