Honestly, it's no problem.

Just stay safe, I was and still am serious that I know enough people who have been raped. It is far more common that you probably think and it happens in places who would think of as being very safe. Do not allow yourself to be manipulated into doing something you don't want to do. A relationship is about both sides giving and taking, abuse is about one side taking.

The KiwiChick cycle:

1. posts problem
2. gets sane, rational advice on problem
3. gets upset and accuses everyone of making fun of her for said problem
4. everyone apologises
5. KC apologises
6. rinse and repeat

:)

Yeah, get all defensive and shit. But it's like a season of Dragon Ball in here. 10 pages, very little progress. You're still talking about the same problem. You're not being proactive at all.

We said give the guy a chance and if you still had the same underlying feeling cut and run. Now you're defending that shit like the battered wife of a redneck boxer.

There's a joke here about your made up wife, but after 12 hours of work I really haven't got the words left to articulate it.

Havent posted on the forums since the late 1990's and it's still the same stuff in this thread :lol:

??????? Not quite sure that's right, but....

Are you meaning like public places? I'm not keen on being completely alone with him until I'm sure he isn't going to try anything, but I figure that hanging out in public will be fine.

Yes, like libraries, out with mates, in a park, walking down the street in the day, in a restaurant. I also know too many people who have been sexually assaulted, if it is unwanted physical attention that is a form of assault.

You need to be very blunt with this bloke about your boundaries. If he tries something you do not like no matter where it is you need to say NO. Do not allow yourself to be self conscious or unsure.

He may actually be a nice bloke, he may actually like you and I think you are doing the right thing giving him a chance. He may be inexperienced in relationships as well, that means he is going to push the boundaries and it is really very important to remember that young men are not wired to take the emotional consequences of their actions into consideration. There is a reason that armies want the vast majority of their front line troops to be between 16 and 22 and male.

You need to be sure of your own boundaries and you need to be blunt about expressing them. That is not being a bitch, that is not being cold, that is having self respect and expecting it to be honored.

As a Christian you know you are a special individual who is loved no matter what (or I hope you do), take that inward knowledge and live it.

It's like accidentally tuning into Jerry Springer.

ftfy

Edited by pv4: 15/4/2013 07:13:20 AM

:lol: Well played.

People will talk to you conescendingly and talk to you like a child when you act like one.

you say you don't like PDA but aren't willing to literally and firmly say to your beau, NO, Stop that, I don't like PDA.

you say he doesn't take no for an answer, so when he goes further in private how are you going to react? Clearly this lad is into Physicallity and if you're not willing to set strong and firm boundaries from the begining things can get well out of hand further down the track.

No relationship is instictive but knowing yourself, who you are and what your boundaries are goes a long way in creating a strong and stable relationship.

I've been with my Wife For 10 years and we've know each other since we were 14. Our relationship has been rocky and straightout bizzar at times but the fact that we talk about our relationship and where it is going and allowing the other to know what issues we have and where and when things are changing, keeps us from having meltdowns or misscommunication leading to disaster.

respect is a two way street. If your Beau can't show you respect then kick him to the curb and find someone who respects you and your boundaries.

Even the nicest and most well meaning guys need to be yanked back sometimes KC.

Like sands through the hourglass...

need someone's opinion because it's doing my head in, this girl always comes up to me to to tell me that she's saying hello then starts a conversation about whatever she also tells me that she knows my name but I've noticed she normally does this stuff after she's gotten dressed up and is looking really good so I dont know if she's looking for attention or not. She also asked me if I know her name (which I had no clue) so idk.also when I reply she tries to keep the conversation going
but the thing is she's a stunner so I'm not sure if she's just messing with me or is serious. I've never had to ask a girl out b4 because the girl has always made the move on me. But the thing is she's one of those crazy bubbly confident people who is really good looking so Im not sure if I should read into these signs or not because of her personality.
I'm only 17 so it's not just a matter of asking her out because shit its terrifying

Edited by MrMcJewPants: 17/4/2013 12:47:00 AM

So my girlfriend keeps saying no to me, I am thinking I'm just going to pretend she says yes, bang away and then leave her after I got my dick wet.

High five fellas, amirite?

See you in 2083

Edited by Joffa: 17/4/2013 08:14:17 AM

Kind of poor taste dude....

Cheers Joff.

That's horrible. Shit multi is shit.

Wasn't even a clever multi.

The sad thing is they've put enough thought into it to have a 'do you even lift' avatar...and that was the best they could do :lol:

Wtf rofl.

-PB

joFFA banned that multi for 70 years? that kind of shit deserved 65 years ban max. outrage. joFFA is a shit admin. esad, etc.

:lol:

Yeah, someone clearly put a lot of effort in to make it :lol: No clue who it would be.

I have my suspicions but I'm not about to start making wild accusations.

I've only got the one suspicion at the moment. Maybe more will flare up later.

Someone write this down so we can award it "Worst Multi of 2013" during the post-season awards :lol:

There have been some shocking multis and it's only April.

Do it

It could be someone who rarely comments on the forum :-k ;)