A very good friend of mine had an ex that cheated on them, constantly belittled their achievements and guilted them into making a sex tape. Despite all this they wanted their ex back for well over a year. The ex constantly played on this to boost their own ego. It was horrible.

Fortunately all seems well now. It goes away with time, mourning a relationship is like mourning a death in the family- there are no hard and fast absolutes for the time frame just a knowledge that the pain dulls with time to a point where you can get on without really thinking about it.

Good luck KC.

Reward mechanisms. The habit is different for everyone (ice-cream, chocolate, fried food) and not everyone has one. Psychologically it stems from childhood where you would associate positive feelings with the thing in question. Quite often these associations are formed when a junk food is frequently/repeatedly used as a treat/reward for good behaviour or from regular events where everyone is happy (such as a family outing to the beach for ice-cream or movie night with maltesers and fantails.) In bad times we then crave the reward when we are craving the good feelings associated with it.

Edit: I personally crave cadbury chocolate when I'm down and I think it has a lot to do with how my mother used to buy me a block of dairy milk when I was really sick, break it up and put it in a bowl near my bed. I think I associate it with the feeling of being cared for and loved, which I crave when I am sad/lonely.

Edited by Scoll: 9/10/2013 04:54:03 PM

Thank you. Luckily my relationship didn't turn out like your friend's. I have gained a bit of self love and self respect recently, so hopefully that will stop me from going back to him.

Yeah, me neither. I think I'm allergic. If I drink too much of it I throw up and fall over a lot.

Sounds thoroughly Pavlovian. I can't say I've ever found comfort in one thing or anotherso I don't really relate. Maybe that's just down to my parents leaving me on the couch with a blanket a bucket and a pack of cold pills when I was sick as a kid. :lol:

I'm on medication.

Meeting up with a girl from uni tomorrow, that I met last week. All conversations had since have pointed to the fact that it's ON tomorrow.

Don't want anything too serious though, as she's one of those girls who calls herself ugly for attention and compliments, even though she isn't and is very happy to post selfless all over FB.

That's pretty much just a sure-fire indicator of daddy issues.

*posts picture of herself on facebook*
her: OMG I hate this picture. I'm so ugly
Guy hoping to get his dick wet #1: Your'e beautiful
Guy hoping to get his dick wet #2: Don't say that! You're gorgeous.
...
Guy hoping to get his dick wet #413935656737: You're so hot.
Her: Aww you guys <3

15 minutes later...Rinse and repeat.

:lol: Bravo.

That's brilliant!

Right in the feels.

Her cover photo says:

"I miss you Dad, I love you"
With a picture of a sun rise over the beach. Pretty sure that says it all....

You may never walk again.

Can't be worse than my current predicament :lol:

Seems afro is quite the pro psychologist

Seems afro is quite the pro psychologist

So I just found out that the girl I have been seeing for a couple of months is moving away to Perth on boxing day, coming back only sparingly.

Feel so deflated/sad. What do? :(

Isn't it to due with the fact that chocolate releases dopamine? When your down you want to feel better ect.

Depends if she's worth following to Perth or not. It is a beautiful city filled with... interesting... people.

It's a pretty short timeframe to be committing to uprooting and going after her. Depends whether you see a long-term future there.

Cheers I guess. :lol:

Jesus christ, that just killed my Friday afternoon good mood.

This. Fuck you Afro ****

+1 :(

I am not affected



-PB

The things is that I don't see us surviving in the long-term together. She said she'd be back in Melbourne 3 weeks every year, obviously not enough.

Will probably have to break it off when she leaves, it's just a shame because she's the first real gf I've ever had. Those stupid <14 y.o ones don't count.

Such is life I guess. You just write it off as being your first girlfriend and keep on slugging.

Teenage years are there to fall in love and lust and get burnt; don't stress it, we have all been there.