Yeah...you can't do the "friends with benefits" thing with a crazy chick. I did that earlier this year with a chick, then she fucked my boss.

Ah, the old "No commitment necessary... Unless you're the chick, then you can't fuck anyone else" relationship.

The best kind :lol:

:lol: I've got no problem with a chick I'm seeing fucking other guys as long as I get to fuck other women. But if she's going to fuck my boss, I'm out.

Okay, so I met this guy who's best friends with the girl who I used to be best friends with, but now hates me. He's pretty cool, and I'm kind of keen on him, no idea how he feels about me, although it seemed like he was a little bit interested too. However, I don't want to cause drama since he's really close with their family, and I have a feeling things could turn out badly because of that.

If the girl now hates you might as well have a crack. Regardless of whether it turns out well or not so well it's not like you're pissing off a friend. From what you've said on here it sounds like it you should stop focusing on trying to please other people and do something that you want to for a change

I'm just worried that she won't be happy about it, and mouth off to him about me, it'd hardly be surprising. Also, I don't want him to feel like he has to choose between me and her or anything like that.

Who cares what anyone else thinks. If he makes you happy, go be happy with him.

Personally, I know I wouldn't really believe or put any value in anything negative a female friend said to me about a girl I was keen on. I see your point but you can't try and please everyone all the time

This. Who cares what she thinks. If she's being a bitch to you/hating you, don't not go for it with this guy to keep her happy. Do this for yourself

Ah lads, I have quite the complicated predicament going on here...

Do tell.

(If you want).

Hoy.


So my roommate/friend (X) had a girlfriend (Y). I was also friends with her (he introduced us). Their relationship was weird and started getting really shaky. By this point Y and I were really good friends and we regularly spoke about all of our problems, but not about their relationship (she was who I turned to when I was extremely depressed and she helped me hugely). So anyway, they end up breaking up and I'm shattered for them, I really am, and I let them both know I'm there to talk to because I wanna stay friends with both of them and their split was mutual. Y takes me up on it and we start talking about it all but X decides not to ever talk to me, which is fair enough because he wasn't obliged to if he wasn't comfortable.

So the next day Y is going to a mates party and X was invited to attend. To alleviate X's boredom, Y invites me along to keep him company. I arrive, all is well, but X texts Y and myself saying he isn't coming because he thinks it'll be boring. So naturally, my only friend is Y. I find out that X had been treating Y like shit and emotionally and verbally abusing her, which I didn't like and so I told her as much. We hung out all night since I didn't really know anyone else and long story short we end up hooking up.

Well since then Y and I still hang out regularly as friends, but X is getting more and more frequent with his bizarre texts and calls and a few calls between the 2 end up in full blown fights and they hate each other for a few days. They've since decided to try and stay friends (which I can't see working since X has changed his mind daily for the past 2 weeks on the matter) which I'm all for, I'd love for us all to stay friends. Problem is Y and I have hooked up again a couple of times and we've caught a bad case of the feels.

Without knowing, X has been accusing me of being the reason behind their failed relationship even though he brought it upon himself by being abusive and refusing to meet with Y and talk about it. He sort of gave up and then once she had enough he decided he wanted another shot but by then Y had decided against getting back with him completely but wants to stay friends. He hasn't even tried to talk to me about any of it and keeps saying to Y that he can't stand being around me or anything like that because I'm still friends with Y. I'm not going to give up my friendship with Y to chase X up when he seemingly wants nothing to do with me.

Wat the fuck do?

yeah, keep doing what you're doing brother. guy seems like a douchenozzle, anyway. no real loss there.

Leave X to do what he wants, keep Y.

Cut X out of your life, I'd advise Y to cut him out too but it's a tough ask and you don't want to seem like you're putting Y against X.

Just because youve known X longer doesn't mean that he's a better friend... PLUS future hookups with Y.

Trust me, I'd rather they stayed friends. I hate conflict but I'm not afraid to stand up for Y if X is being an idiot. I want to stay friends with him too but if he doesn't want to there's not much I can do :/

I hate love. Just makes things more complicated.

Just remember that you don't have an obligation to keep trying to be his friend if he keeps being a douchenozzle.

It's always classic when we get a big group of mates together for drinks and "I never" comes around, as soon as her name is mentioned at least half the room finishes their glasses.

Ual, your track record with room mates looks abysmal :lol:
In all seriousness though, if things stay the same and your mate is acting like cunt whilst his ex seems like a positive relationship in your life it's pretty clear what path you should take if push comes to shove.

Yeah I'm gonna try talking to him today to find out what's going on with him. If he decides to be a dick then so be it, life will move on I guess.

Cheers guys.

Just have a look at his perspective. It sounds like he still has feelings for her and you've come in and 'hooked up' with her. Of course he is going to be a dick to you. I wouldn't be impressed if a friend/roommate hooked up with an ex. I'm not blaming you or 'Y' or saying that 'X' is a saint but just have a look at his point of view. Maybe its best to give him some time and let him vent by himself. I can only see it getting messy if you confront him again.

Keep at it with Y. Their relationship with each other shouldn't impact on your personal life. It's not your fault he treated her badly and if X is going to be a dick about it then that's his own problem.

Besides, it's not like you hooked up with her while they were still together. And even then, if he treated her better then she wouldn't have been looking around.

If he has no chance with her then why would it be? A person can't be off-limits to an entire social group because another person has an unreciprocated crush on them.

Are you 1 too?

I'm bored mate...:lol:

So everyone knows that he likes this girl, but he hasn't made a move. That's his loss then isn't it?

Cheap shot there Scouse, you're in no position to judge.

You obviously haven't seen me without a shirt on :cool:

KT tip: Work the traps at the gym. Extremely underrated muscle group, which are easy to build mass on.
They are always visible when you're wearing a shirt, so get shrugging

Wow, I'm quite literally in between shrug sets while on here :lol: