Says the man with the sexiest facial hair on 442.

Fair call Pauly. I'm the first to admit I can be a little silly at times.

Not that I'm proud of it, but I can switch on/off the stupidity with ease. Sometimes a little more regulating wouldn't hurt.

I just missed it completely. Didn't actually read it.:lol: Which page was it on?



The age difference is less of a factor than it would be if she was younger.
Honestly if you don't really mind about anything not happening between the two of you at the moment, then just let the friendship develop more and get to know her better. From what you've said, her family likes you a lot, so there's no trouble there. If you don't have a problem with taking things how they come and letting them develop naturally, then keep doing what you're doing, but be mindful that she might not be there forever. [/quote]

Im happy to wait, but not for too long. I don't want to wait till im 28/29 and then if she says no, im back at square one and have to start again. Its also not fair that I look for other girls now whilst I like this one and then if things don't work out it is like I have a fall back. Im mindful of that. Mother has told me she has received inquiries from other families and guys but she has told them straight out no. I didn't get a straight out no, I got a not now. I know she wont be around forever, I just have to decide if I move on now, or if I say something in about a year and hope that whatever happens does not affect our friendship and the family relationships considering that my brother is already married to her sister.

Shhhhh it is the secret to what keeps me from reverting to Master Trole 2013 lel.

-PB

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You definitely don't have to wait 3 years or anything like that to tell her, you don't even have to wait a year if you don't want to. Just see how things go - you might very easily change your mind about how you feel about her as time goes on. Definitely don't give up on it now, you have no need to do that, but you can take it slowly. Good luck :)

Yeah, went back and saw the comment. I guess I don't pay much attention to people without display pics.


Yeah, will definitely see how things go. Hopefully the whatsapp messages keep up and I can take things from there, shes shocking when it comes to her phone.

Alright - problem lads.

There's this girl at school, she's about a 6.5/10. Based on looks, I wouldn't turn her down (without thinking hard about it). Anyway, the problem is this girl is fucking crazy. She commits self-harm (there are numerous cuts on her forearm and upper thigh) and she spends lots of time out of school in mental clinics for rehab. She recently came back from a month-long hiatus from school.

The problem is, she's asked me out. I feel if I decline (which I most likely will do) she's going to go crazy and harm herself again, obviously something I don't want (even though I don't have strong feelings for her).

So how should I approach this?

Say no. All you're going to do is put yourself in a really tough position when you don't particularly have feelings for her. It's easier to reject her now than get in a relationship and completely regret it. If you don't want to deal with her problems then that's fair enough, don't feel like you have to.
Also, she's not crazy just because she cuts herself, and I highly doubt she would try and kill herself or anything just because you don't want to date her.

That's what I was thinking beforehand.

Cheers KC

No problem :)

Relationships are hard enough, you don't want to be getting in one just because you're worried about what will happen to the other person if you don't.
If she cuts herself then that's her problem, not yours.

Edited by KiwiChick1: 28/8/2013 04:51:14 PM

aye, definitely agree with KC, don't go there, but maybe try and throw her a bone in terms of friendly company.

I know I am attracted to an comfortable with women sexually, but men I am unsure about. A couple I have been somewhat attracted to. Problem is I don't get attracted enough to many people, well, to the point I would want to act sexually that is. The proportion of women is those number is definitely higher to.

So it's an interesting situation to be in when I want to know how comfortable I am with these things.

Tbh unless you genuinely want to be friends with her, you probably won't need the added stress.

There's no problem with that. I don't think anyone is completely gay or straight, everyone falls somewhere in between. Maybe you're into dudes too, or maybe you just find some of them aesthetically pleasing or really enjoy their company. Sexuality is fluid, and will change to some degree as you change, nothing to worry about there :)

Re: Guys and sex: It's a rite of passage thing. Sex is a lot like air, it's not a big deal until you're not getting any.

Absolutely. Sex is also the most vulnerable a person can be; naked, sweaty and inside someone. You can't really be any closer to someone than being inside them. It's an empowering position for a guy to be in as well, knowing hat each movement can illicit such dramatic responses.

Well...you know she goes off in the sack :lol: But they never end up being worth the head fuck unless you're one of those guys who likes getting off when being stabbed is a realistic possibility :lol:

Sex is just a bit of fun, virginity isn't a disease :lol:

Sex is just a bit of fun, virginity isn't a disease :lol:[/quote

unfortuantely there are a lot of guys that like the swing their sexual endeavours around their heads in a cock-substituting desplay of macho masculinity. They turn it into a competitive boasting thing. Fortunately I don't have to associate with people like that anymore. Bloody high school.

People make a big deal about virginity - whether it's someone giving it away "too easily" or retaining it because they value it. It can make adolescence quite confusing for some kids.

So you finally did the deed did you, KC? :lol:

It can be much worse than that :lol:
But it's easily treatable.

well that quotation got a little mixed up

I never said that.
People have odd attitudes towards sex, it doesn't make sense to me.

she's not denying it.

I actually don't get why guys have an obsession with taking a girl's virginity. I want a girl who knows what she's doing and can make things interesting. If I want to be the first guy to go somewhere I'll climb a mountain. At least then nobody complains when I stick a flag in it.

Reading between the lines. BA-BOOM!!

Onya KC.

I don't feel the need to confirm or deny, people will think whatever they like anyway.

Yeah I find it a bit creepy too...

Good work KC.

Well with an attitude like that people are almost going to think you didn't enjoy it.

In fairness first times, generally not the best.
Also lack of communication, or not knowing what to communicate yet, or not quite knowing how one likes things yet.

I'm really over people and their assumptions at the moment. If people want to talk to me about it privately, cool, but I can have an opinion on skydiving without ever having been skydiving.

Exactly the right attitude, be true to yourself, your business is your business.

Cheers Joff <3