I read some of the stories about your dad's treatment of you and my dad never treated me like that. But he is still a fucking arsehole.

Addressing the actual topic.

Good - U44687231, Draupkick, most Melbourne posters, tsf, ricecrackers, most of the mods

Bad - Roar Brisbane, Crusader, 433, Most Sydney posters, Most Brisbane posters, the m80 meme, the in trouble meme, zimbos, unshackled, joffa

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Well i made my peace with my dad. I had to i dont have in anymore (r.i.p) life throws you curve balls and i figured its better to forgive as i will never see his face again or get a hug or get fatherly advice from him. You will get thru this

Having met salmon in person, he's nowhere near as shy as the impression I got from his posts here previously (i.e. didn't sense it at all).

Considering you're half my age and really we don't have a lot in common apart from supporting united and liking football, you had no problems keeping a conversation going as well. Anxiety is a whole different beast of course but you're a good kid and you just need to keep working at it.

anxiety is a bitch, heres hoping salmon can get his social anxiety in order as he seems a nice kid, hell i reckon 433 is a nice kid under all that right wing posts.

Titties are the answer... And not yours!

make sure they belong to over 18's only, ;)

Fuck that.


Let kids be kids. Lock up pervs.

as a parent ill let that slide or shall i remind you about that quote you commented accidently :lol:

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That wasn't even my fault hahaha the post that I supposedly quoted wasn't even on the page I was browsing :lol:

Kid just needs to lift and exercise. Trust me, this is the best way to build self esteem as you start looking after yourself.

sure sure :lol:

This.

Pretty sure my high school life changed when a girl saw me with my shirt off when I was about 16... Didn't become an instant lady killer, but the seed was sewn :lol:

So salmon is 100% real?

Is munrub ok?

dont mention munrubenz, he might just pop on back in here and everyone and him included will derail this thread .

Well I didn't ask him to login to his account in front of me but yes he's real :lol:

so another multi that someone accused of being a multi is infact not. now can anyone confirm if that 4-3-3 isnt a ricey multi or in fact a 16 yr old kid

Good stuff salmon!

Pwoah salmon had a 442 rendezvous? Has anyone checked on munrub?

He's been quietly the last few days

While my father wasn't as bad as yours, I can't forgive him for the shit he's done. At his best, he's completely absent and leaves a massive hole in my life where a decent father figure should be. At his worst, he stresses my family the fuck out, always finds something to belittle, bully or give me shit for (whether that my grades, my hair or even my weight. Who knows what he'd do or say if he found out I have no friends) and is an all round wanker.

There have been so many times where he's called my brother or my mum and yelled and screamed at them for something, apologised a day later and then yelled at them over the phone for something else a couple days later. Despite all the times that he's said he'll change, he's still the same dickhead he's always been. Everything always has to go his way or he gets pissed. He's controlling. Despite playing next to no part in raising me or my brother, he has no problem with yelling at mum for not doing this for us or doing that when she should've done this. As if he has the right to criticise others for their parenting methods or even to have a say in how we're raised. Now that I think about it, he's one of the reasons why I'm such a mess, because he's never taught me how to be a decent man.


Whenever I've been at Adelaide United games, I actually feel much more at ease because everyone there is passionate about football so I could go up to pretty much anyone and have a conversation about the club or football without needing to stress about what I'm going to say next (I could go on for ages about football) or what they might think about me (I'll never see them again so who cares if I'm awkward?).

But at school, it's the exact opposite. Not many people like sports, out of those who do very few like football, and out of the few that do a lot of them don't care about the A-League, so I can't talk about that. Of course all kids like music, but barely any of them are really into it like I am, so I can't really talk about that either. Books? Who the fuck reads nowadays? When you take away my hobbies/obsessions (since there aren't really any kids at school who are into the same stuff I'm into or at least not as passionately), I'm not a very interesting person. So unless I find a group of people who share my passions (I've got a better chance of finding a unicorn), I don't really have many ways of making friends.


What do you mean?

Also sorry to shit up this thread with my problems, but some of this stuff is shit that I really need to get off my chest.

Trust me salmon , you may think you don't have good male role models but you do. Uncles. And the biggest influence in your life your mum. She has taken on board the burden of being mum and dad and raised you and your brother.

Sounds like a narcissist tbh. You don't need a good father to teach you how to be a decent man. If anything, the fact that you consciously realise how shit he is as a father makes it obvious that you never want to be a father like that. It must suck for you, but sometimes the things that teach you most about life are the bad parts of it. My dad used to smack my mum around :lol: Now, that could've gone two ways. Either I could've ended up some piece of shit that hits his girlfriend/wife around, or I could realise that you don't hit anyone at all, let alone someone you're in a relationship with. Can't comment on your personal life, but you're obviously able to comprehend the situation as it is and make your own judgements. That's a big step in the first place.



I know I mentioned it to you before, and it's really relevant again now that you've brought up the difference between how approachable you feel and how social you feel at Adelaide games in contrast to school. You gotta keep in mind, everyone at the game is there for the same reason as you. You're all united under a shared interest. At school? Lol. Don't even bother trying to fit anything like that into the equation.

Being older, we all know how shit high school was - shit, lots of guys here went to schools without girls :lol: . How long have you got left? Your life only really begins after you finish school and turn 18. I know it sucks to hear, but trust me, it is definitely worth the wait, haha. You can completely reinvent yourself over night. Every single person you see will be new. You will find other people with shared interests in the same manner as your interest in football/AUFC - except about the music you like, the books you like, anything else you like.

Stop saying you don't have friends either. Even if they're online, they are still friends. We have a group chat on facebook m80, if only you'd add one of us you could join the talk of all things football, baginas and drunken food choices. And we are spread from Melbourne to Townsville to Sweden :lol: You don't need to hang out with people all the time to be mates - shit, we don't - when we do though it's usually a good time, haha.


What do you mean?

Also sorry to shit up this thread with my problems, but some of this stuff is shit that I really need to get off my chest.[/quote]

I mean it's good that you actually met up with mcjules and are being proactive.

Group chat fuck add me to that fucker m80

You missed my proudest moment in a while: Slappy.

Yep I was going to say the same thing. You may find this subreddit useful to understand what you're dealing with. The rest of what you posted was spot on too.

Edited by mcjules: 29/11/2015 07:31:03 AM

Wow mad inv.

Done brav

great to see some excellent peer support in here, well done everyone, excellent departure from the usual rip each others heads off stuff,

Salmon take all the positives and run with them, life is what you make it, best of luck with the situation and if you need to have a chat PM me

love Batfink