Yeah, tell me about it :lol:

Tbh I'm actually worried that the bullying I suffered as a kid has scarred me and I'll always feel like an outsider.

During the recent m80 weekend, Heine, SydCro, Pala, Scotty21 and myself all played a decent game of never have I ever.

Much talk of testicles, washing machines and under age women.

2 be fair that was only 1 strory

Don't know if anyone else on here grew up being severely bullied, but if they did, how can I overcome this bullshit fear and anxiety when it comes to socialising? Or am I going to be a neurotic little bitch forever?

Shoot me a pm mate. I think I can help you out. I went through some pretty nasty bullying when I was your age.

I've never really been in your situation but if it's a serious issue that you've had for a while then I think you should speak to a psychologist. There's no harm in talking to someone about it, and medicare usually covers a number of sessions a year.

Same , been thru nasty bullying until i turned 18. We are qll here for ya

Was never bullied but Salmon just live life doing things you actually enjoy. Stop over thinking things and don't give a fuck about what other people think of you.

You're only in highschool man if they don't like you fuck em, in a couple of years time you'll be out of that place and probably never see most of those people ever again. (I only speak to about 4 or 5 people regularly from highschool now and I left about 4 years ago).

Join some sort of club that interests you at least then you can start to socialize with people who have similar interests to you.

Yea it'll be tough at first but it beats sitting around moping all the time.

The sad Thing sometimes the bulkying effects people so much that it effects their adult life. Its a vicious cycle.

then break the cycle, dont be a bully :)

Thank God we have you here to solve the problem! Who knew it was so simple? :roll:

I can imagine bullying being a lot worse today than when I grew up with social media and everything. Just remember that high school is nothing. The kid who was the most popular at my school that gave me shit all the time through my teenage years, got done for frauding centrelink and practically begs for people to talk to him.

MvfcArs my old man used to kick the shit out of me a little bit when I was a kid - mostly when he was super stressed at work (a rubbish excuse). As far as I knew he never hit my mum or sister. He was a pretty big lad and I was a bit of a late bloomer (shot up 4 inches over the Summer between 9th and 10th grades alone). He laid off me mostly after this - he quit his job and was basically in retirement early. At this stage I started making a heap of rep teams for sport, especially swimming, but also some lower-level hoops and footy. After returning from an inter-state training camp when I was about 17 my little sister told me she copped a stray fist. For the first time I confronted him about it. He got in my face and I completely levelled him with one hit to the head (retaliating violently is something I still regret and I often avoid confrontation completely now - when I think about it now my clearest memory are his broken glasses). I told him to get out of the house and neither myself or my sister have spoken to him since - been nearly a decade. I try to live my life in a way that reflects my positive attributes and in a manner that doesnt reflect him at all. Sometimes I notice things he did that I do - even little things like standing with a similar posture or occasionally mixing up words like he did - and that can depress me.

I didnt confess that this all happened to my mates for years because I felt ashamed. One time a girl I was seeing shared a story that shared shades of mine and she taught me that it wasnt a reflection on me or my self worth. We arent our Fathers. You can choose to live a better life.




As for Salmon - I think bullying is part of growing up mate. Hate to admit it but I bullied some kids, and Iwas bullied myself. It doesnt feel nice and as you get older you look back at the times you were a wanker and feel bad about it. Ive apologised to a few of the kids I peppered as an adult. Probably doesnt help much.
Just find people youre comfortable with. I think spending less time on these forums will help you (not being a cunt here). Find a hobby or interest and meet people who share similar ideals. People in High School are all certified idiots. I can imagine living in tbe world of Facebook, Insta and Snapchat magnifies the problem. Just remember most of that shit is bullshit and being popular on social media is about as useful as tits on a bull as an adult. And if you try to make it your thing, people begin finding you insufferable.

A better confession. I was living in Europe for a while a few years back. Landed in Germany for a weekend with a group of mates and got first night fever real bad. Smashed millions of jaeger shots and steins. Ended up with one of the girls in the group - had been keen for ages. Woke up on the couch but was confused because I clearly remembered coming home with her. Turns out mid-bang I was struggling, tried to roll her over and threw her off the bed. I laughed so hard that I got sick and threw up a filthy dark mess of jaeger all over the floor. She blew up and told me to clean it. I went to the ktchen to get a bucket, lay down on the couch and passed out. She went to have a shower (because she was grossed out) and passed out in bath tub/shower combo thing. Rest of our mates got back to the apartmemt and were a mixture of furious and feverishly amused. Needless to say, things didnt work out between me and the lady in question.

If you read the first page you can see i went thru what you did and then some. Also bullying should never be part of life. Its wrong and we shouldnt tolerate it. If it happened at a workplace it would be dealt with properly

I didn't believe a word of it until Kevin Airs appeared, having a believable ending gave his bullshit some credibility.

It was a generational thing, my dad wailed on me a fair bit as a kid and when I was 15 I decided I was big enough to take him on and copped an absolute flogging. Three years later I was bigger, stronger and had been in a lot more fights but he pussied out. It wasn't as cathartic as I had hoped.

In my younger days I was woken one night by the fire alarms in the apartment beneath mine. A mate from work lived there so I called and there was no answer so I went over the balcony and into his apartment. The smoke was from some badly burned potato gems in the oven which he had decided to cook after an unsuccessful night out but before they were ready he passed out on the lounge while masturbating to a movie called Headpissers 17. The fire engines pulled up downstairs and I knew I had less than a minute to make a sound moral judgement. Turn off the tv and cover him up or take a few happy snaps?

After the fireys left without him waking up I went back up to my place and ran into my neighbour who was the breakfast chick from a local radio station I had been tuning up for a while (mission accomplished at a later date). I told her the full story which she repeated on air that morning in only a slightly edited form. As a result the entire regiment knew before I got to work and shared the pics.

Workplace bullying is one of the worst things I've ever suffered. I once worked in a factory and everyone in there was either an aussie rules playing bogan who could only talk about smashing vb and singing songs and replacing every second Line with "stick it in her arse" or a bible bashing christian. I tried my best to fit in, even got a mate a job. i could get by but these people started screwing around with my work, we worked with high temperature mouldings that they would mess around with them so that they would fly off and burn me, literally 25kg steel moulds at 200 degrees, so i left. Worked somewhere else and then ended up working for the mate i got a job there a few years later. Well in that job i was 2nd in charge but essentially if he was in a bad mood i would cop it, forced to work extra hours or get the sack or he'd deliberately change things and keep it secret so i would stuff up. I got sick with a nerve disorder and things got worse cause i told him he may not be able to depend on me as much then at my wedding he tells me i may lose hours... wtf? Then while on my honeymoon he msgs and says oh there's no work for you anymore, i get back and he's like "just kidding " by this stage i was starting to get sicker and the stress was making me worse so i just quit and walked away. I had worked for him for 3 years and this was going the whole time. He even bundled me up one night telling me i was destroying his marriage and i should show some respect to his child. He has a 3 month old baby i only saw on my wedding day ( my sister in law was holding him and i didn't know who's it was) anyhow Turns out this guy, a "very good mate" was the one who instigated all the fiddling with my moulds at the Previous employment, causing huge scars from my wrists to my elbows on both arms and on my upper thighs, and now the guy has the nerve to not pay my last 6 months of super.

I've been basically out of work for 12 months due to being sick with trigeminal neuralgia and a hearing and breathing issue and am just trying to get back into work but after all this stuff I'm so hesitent, i essentially have no skill or experience and don't want to be back into industries with those sorts of people. Bullying really sucks and i think as an adult it is a hell of alot more detrimental than as a child.

I could always handle it as a kid and im sure i dished it out also but it can be such a horrible thing. I even had bullies at high school, which funnily enough are actually Amongst my best friends today. Even after 13 years after finishing high school.

Used to bully deaf kids. Am now deaf.

The world works in mysterious ways.

Shit, like fully deaf or just partially?

Edited by salmonfc: 4/11/2015 11:57:33 AM

So she was happy to take a load from a random on a train, but using a public tap was too much for her?

Newy girls : )

See this is exactly one of the reasons why I don't have a facebook.

I'm the same age as you salmon and i have been bullied but haven't been bashed yet and i was very anti social when I was a little kid. I also have really bad anxiety and have trouble talking to people. Maybe you could have some counseling to improve your social skills.

Feeling like that when you are a 15 year old teenage boy is fairly typical and it was certainly how I felt at that age. You get better as you get older. Trust me when I say things get better as you get older. Just stay in school and work hard and enjoy yourself, don't take things too seriously and if someone gives you shit at your age its due to their own insecurity.

Men reach their peak in the 30s and 40s when it comes to fulfilment and confidence. Can guarantee that all of us were nervous anxious teenagers. I know that sounds easy to say at my age but I've been through similar stuff too.

I was bullied heavily in school so fully understand re social anxiety and awkwardness

What helped me (it's the confessions thread so fuck all y'all):
- weed, shrooms and acid. They relativized my previous mindset and self-image and opened up new avenues of thought and experience. There were intense experiences but ultimately beneficial ones, I would have never have gone for the university option if I hadn't used them. I also would not have met some beautiful people as well
- there is nothing, NOTHING wrong with being an introvert (if you are one, same applies to extroversion)
- social anxiety is not something that can be removed like a growth, it will remain there as it is a completely natural reaction. Try an apply a positive aspect to it.
- Meditation can be very helpful
- Exercise, set goals and go for them. The voices in your head saying you can't are only echoes
- From my own standpoint, philosophy and Eastern traditions I found very helpful (I recommend Alan Watts, just don't be close minded)
- Anyone who doesn't believe you or tries to belittle you is trying to bring you down to their level

*applies cape and medal and attempts to fly away*

Thanks to all my m80s for the support and advice.


I actually am seeing a psychologist who comes to my school during recess (this start due to some trouble I was having with some pricks earlier in the year which have more or less dissipated), but I haven't told her about these problems because until recently I hadn't even realised that I might have a social anxiety disorder.


I know that I really shouldn't give a fuck about dropkicks who give others a hard time just cause they either don't have anything else to do or are pissed off with their own lives, but it's easier said than done. The problem is I'm so self-conscious that whenever I even sit next to someone in class and try and talk to them, I'm constantly convinced that they're creeped out by the awkward loner sitting next to them.


Luckily none of the bullying or any sort of bullshit is happening over social media. But I still feel pretty stupid when I add people and then have nfi how to start a conversation that lasts more than five minutes.


I'm going to start looking up some resources for improving social skills online, hopefully they can help me feel more normal.

Also god damn it I thought I was the youngest one here :lol:


Doing weed/acid/shrooms while I'm in high school might be a bit difficult (not sourcing it, all I have to do is ask the sketchy slackers kids if they smoke and if they respond with "Smoke what?" then I know they know where to source some weed). Not too keen on either having a bad trip and being even more fucked up or getting caught.

I've got no problem with being an introvert, but just because I like being alone doesn't mean I like being lonely.

Hopefully I can at least lessen the effects of social anxiety through the use of either therapy, self-help or if worse comes to worst, medication.

Anyway, thanks again for all the support and advice.

I've just fulfilled my obligations as an trendy, inner Sydney resident. I've just signed up to 'food blogging' website Zomato, and will now critique everything I eat and drink with a slightly snootish perspective.

At the end of the day, feeling awkward and anxious and embarrassed is something that happens when you're growing up - everyone feels on the outer sometimes, and everyone doubts themselves. However, if it's happening to the point that it's seriously interfering with your life and your ability to do things (which it seems like is the case for you), then you do need to get help for it (glad to hear that you are) and actively work towards coping with it.
While I've (thankfully) never been severely bullied, I can relate to a lot of the thoughts and feelings that you've posted related to your anxiety. I can't really tell you it gets better or anything because it's still a big problem for me, but it can get easier and more manageable. Basically I can understand to an extent, so feel free to pm me or whatever if you like.
Also, though I assume you view medication as a bad thing, it might be worth looking into to help. I don't think what you're going through is a normal teenage experience or something that you'll necessarily just get over or move on from, so it could be something worth trying in future even if you're not comfortable with the idea now.

/psychology student

Dude, you obviously have personality...

But some social media advice, NEVER post anything resembling a self pity post or a random 'motivational quote' or pathetic song lyrics. Never post ambiguous statuses that appear angry or sad and begging for attention. Any of the fairly normal people here will tell you that can pigeon hole anyone who does that.

As for making friends, over the next 2 years, school changes a lot, and people get less bitchy and are more interested in their own shit. All I'll say is never turn down any invite, be generous and help people with anything. And certainly more an after school thing, but find a gym buddy and do it. I've seen plenty of bigger dudes clean themselves RIGHT up since I finished school 4 or 5 years ago. Don't be a bitch about people doing drugs... 90% of 17-23 year olds that I know have messed around a bit, and don't be that narc, if you're not open to trying anything. I'm not saying you have to let your friends OD, but just don't hassle them because they took a cap on a Friday night.

I'm the kind of person who has a personality that people either love or hate, because I'm a sarcastic, cynical dick and I can't help that, so I use it to my advantage. Find your point of difference and own it.
Read lots. Always be smarter than everyone else.

Dress like everyone else. If it's not 'comfortable', get over it, you'll get used to it :lol:
Always slightly overdress for the occasion. Remember that once you're out, you can always dress down, but if you're underdressed you can't dress up.

Anyway, that's just my random rant about what not socially awkward people do, some will disagree, but given that we're on an Internet forum, chances are that they're socially awkward ;)

Edited by eastern glory: 5/11/2015 08:51:07 AM