It's a tough one, you don't want to be too forward but you don't want them to not be aware of your interest. Tbh I think if she's going to be interested in you, it wont make a difference if you are super forward and stuff. You have to try and speak without words in that sense, if you know what I mean.

Every situation is different though.. hopefully you've got some friends who know you/her a little so they can help you with some advice, as it's nigh on impossible for you to be completely objective about it.

My point is that you've never been 'friend zoned' by a girl you're pursuing because you're still going out with what I'd wager is probably the first girl you ever kissed.

imno the songwriter comes to the fore. But well said. Tbh, if you're occasionally a bit forward with her and she shuts you down, that's fine. You know to move along and the only thing that gets hurt is a little bit of pride. It's better than being withdrawn and another guy moving in on her because she 'thought you just wanted to be friends'.

But that said, be SURE it's what you want. My experience is NEVER, EVER screw the crew. So if you're going to pursue someone from work you probably want to keep it on the down low anyway.

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And? None of us have every played Football professionally, should we shut down the WF and AF sections of the forum, because we're not allowed to have opinions on something we've never done?

That's rich coming from you of all people :lol:

That's the most ridiculous logic you could possibly have used. You shoot down people for bagging out teams using 'defensive' football all the time and when someone challenges your assertion you continue to plod along, but for this we should shut down the forum on the basis of personal experience? "What the fuck" doesn't quite cover it.

:-s You're right. It's ridiculous to suggest people can't have a discussion without personal experience. That's exactly what I was saying, thank you.

1. I post a picture which supports my opinion that the 'Friendzone' is bullshit.
2. You say I'm not allowed to have that opinion because I have no experience with said situation.

That's where we're at. You weren't challenging my assertion, you were saying I can't have it in the first place.

Edited by Funky Munky: 27/6/2012 04:29:58 PM

:lol:

I have people at work who'd love this to eventuate, they'll help

Personally, I don't really believe in the friend-zone, either she's interested in you or she isn't. If you are friends with her, there's nothing stopping you from becoming more than friends - she might say no but that'll be because she's not interested, not because you're "just a friend". You might as well give it a go.

I never said you couldn't have an opinion, I simply said that it was amusing that a guy who's still dating the first girl he kissed (100% strike rate, props) is the first person to shoot down anyone who uses the words "friend zoned".

Yeah good. The girl I'm with now, if not for a few of my mates who wingmanned the fuck out of me, I wouldn't be with her. Having people there to keep you sane and bounce ideas off of is imperative, and stops you from missing things, but more importantly, from seeing things that aren't even there.

All of this.

@Afro, fair enough, I misread. Bit harsh to say I'm the first person to always shoot it down, when it's the first time it's been raised on here, but anyway.

Edited by Funky Munky: 27/6/2012 05:15:14 PM

It's great to have one guy who you can talk to about relationship stuff. My housemate is awesome for that. But (and not to seem condescending or bigoted or whatever) the best for advice on chicks is a lesbian. I have a lesbian friend who I can go to for anything relationship-y and she's brilliant - she'll tell me when I'm being a dick or reading too much into something or not pushing hard enough and she's right 99.9% of the time.

Yep, I'd agree with this. Friend-Zoned IMO is just when the guy likes the girl but she doesn't like him. Simple as that. She doesn't like you. And the guy just settles for being friends because he wants to have some faux-closeness to her. She'll never like you.

To an extent you're right. But there's a definite 'friend zone' where a girl over-thinks the outcomes of hooking up with you. I've had girls who have said "I want to, but it would be a bad idea for x, y and z reasons"...reasons which all went out the window the second we're drunk and at a party together.

The 'friend zone' is there, just not as much as people think because they use it as an explanation for a chick who just isn't interested in them.

Didn't settle for being friends.

You're getting taxed out the wazoo then. I got $2300, mind you I was only paying tax half the year.

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