If your friend thought that 'life's just a ride' they may not have killed themself.

I know, right? Just one of many flaws in Marconi's foolhardy philosophy.

Fuck off Marconi you stupid cunt.

:lol: Early entry for post of the year 2013.

Well she came over and we had a proper talk and laid it all out. It's all sorted. She's back with dickhead but I can't and won't try to separate them because that's a cunt thing to do. She knows how much she hurt me and she apologised profusely. I told her I'd probably never be able to be friends with the guy, at least not in the the near future. Everything is aired out and now I just have to move the fuck on, I guess.

So true

The next time you see her is going to be weird and you know it :lol:

:lol: Now that's just vulgar

Just lost my gf of ten months
It's fucked
We never fought or anything

I'm usually negative about relationships but with her I never saw an ending
Fuck was I wrong..

I'm sorry mate :( You holding up okay?

I went through something similar with my first. Never fought then BAM, breakup out of nowhere.

Hold in mate.

We were so good together aswell
Never fought
Always had fun no matter what.

Hectic
Been drinking since Monday
Ill get thru it

Same story with my ex. 2.5 years and then suddenly, all over. Chin up.

I really want a boyfriend, but I'm far too insecure to have one.

Wouldn't a supportive boyfriend help overcome insecurity?

If I was normal, yeah probably :lol:

Honestly there are plenty of blokes out there that genuinely do care about hearing your problems and trying to make a difference. It's normally the "nerdy" guys that will try make you feel special as well. Get yourself a lad, and maybe your confidence will increase.

In many regards, people who are in relationships are often insecure. I know a bunch of people who are in relationships purely because they're too scared to leave that person, they're worried that they'll be doomed to being a lone because they don't think they'll meet someone else.

Sorry i'm a couple of days late on this, but ual's story grabbed me I guess, but I can't agree any more with notorganic here!

Sorry but this girl seems like a proper piece of shit. She may have helped you through some hard times but fuck mate what she's done is proper fucked up. You did all the right things, waited for her to make her mind up, then she just dogs you like that. Bitch

You've gave up friendships with this dude and his brother who you said you were close with to be with her, she knows that, I mean fuck.

What you need to get is that the only reason she chose him over you was because she knew if she chose you, the other guy would fuck off forever, but she knows that you have so little self respect for yourself (sorry, but its obvious) that you will still hang around, she knows that you will still sniff around waiting for a chance for as long as it takes meaning that she has a fall back if things with the other cunt don't work out.

Shes having her cake and eating it too, you can't see that?

I pretty much guarantee you that if you spaz out on her calling her out for the massive bitch that she is, which by the sounds of things she has already subconsciously asked you to do by doing the whole "you must hate me so much" campaign which was all a test basically to see if you were gonna fuck off or stand by her, if you had gone the spaz out and broke off all communication with her, she quickly would have realised that the other dude is a dick and you are the real deal and she would have come back to you, but because you didn't, she knows she can keep leading you on while she see's if things with this other dick works out as a nice little back up plan.

Sorry for being harsh, but I went through a very similar situation a long time ago and I know that your just gonna get your shit even more messed up if you keep letting yourself be stringed along.

Also your living in denial if you think there is any chance of staying friends with her with a bf who hates you so much, he will chip away at her about you until she starts to see things his way, she may say that won't happen, but of course it fucken will! Just think about it, if she stays with him long term, its inevitable that she will have to chose between being with him or being friends with you, theres just no way mate, no way.

Your either gonna have to be the man and end things completely with her now, or face her ending things completely with you in a few months time. If you do the ending, you will regain your self respect and end the relationship in a position of power, but if you wait for the inevitable of her doing it to you, your gonna feel like the biggest sucker on earth. Plus by doing it to her, you may force her feelings for you back to the surface when she is faced with the prospect of losing you completely, were as if you wait, by the time she gets around to it her feelings will be gone.

Edited by RJL25: 4/1/2013 05:22:27 PM

Sorry but finding self confidence through the eyes of someone else is not a good recipe, because if the relationship ends she'll be pretty much shattered.

Self confidence can only be found from within

Mmm, that's exactly what I don't want to happen. Plus considering my track record with guys, I'll be paranoid that he'll find someone he much prefers, and it wouldn't be fair for me to not trust him.

Good post RJL, especially the bit about staying friends - the guy will constantly be trying to drive a wedge between you and her.

Pretty much what RJL said in his last post there. The only person who can give you confidence and self-assuredness is you.

Won't be getting a boyfriend for a while then.

So much of this. The more you look for a relationship the more you get depressed and lose your confidence when one doesn't come.

Implying I actually have any self confidence to lose.

You get confidence back when you go "screw it, I don't care. Que Sera Sera."

Unfortunately I'm one of those people who cares far too much :lol: Anyway, ignore me, I'm just having a little pity party for myself tonight - not even sure why though.

All of my relationships started when I had no interest at all in being in a relationship!

Most of my mates get into relationships out of the blue, rarely do they find when while they're moping around talking about how much they wish they were in one. No offence KC, just speaking from my experience

None taken, I'm just having a forever alone moment :lol: