I'm sorry dude, I shouldn't have snapped. I've never had this kind of pressure in my personal life before, and I really can't deal with it.

That's ok, I understand that.

Honestly, you seem like a nice girl and one day you'll find someone who genuinely likes you for who you are. And remember, sex is not the #1 priority for every guy.

Don't forget people care enough here to try and help you out.

I've basically gone from guys not even looking at me, to ones asking me out. It should be awesome, I should feel really good about people being interested in me, but I just really don't. I don't even like who I am, so I can't really accept that anyone else would. I don't want to feel like I've got all of these expectations to live up to now trying to prove that I'm worthy of the attention I'm getting. I just want to enjoy uni and make some new friends, and just have a bit of fun.

Then do this and stop worrying about everything else.

There's no shame in a polite "I'm flattered in the interest, but I'm not interested in a relationship" to any guy that asks you out.

Had a great afternoon :lol:

I concur.

NB: this also doesn't mean you can't go out with these guys and have a good time.

And I've said that to them! But for some reason that's seen as a challenge ](*,)

In that case going out on a date would probably not be advised, might feed that alpha male bullshit. (Can see you what you mean by that now)

You're far too late with that advice :lol:

This is a terrible thing to say but I will any way. Don't get drunk around someone who doesn't take no as an answer. I know enough people who have been raped.

I'd have thought that went without saying.

It is a terrible thing to say cause I don't know the bloke from a bar of soap and am showing a pretty low opinion of his character.

I wouldn't place myself in a situation like that anyway.

Females are the epitome of confusing and frustrating :lol: This chick initiates a conversation, then replies with only one word answers or just stops replying completely lolol, why do people do that :lol:

So my former housemate's girlfriend was at the bar I was at last night with a few mutual friends of all of ours. She ended up getting a bit drunk and hitting on me hard. Awkward. As.

Because she wants you to put in effort to see whether or not you're interested in her.

Biggest. Turnoff. Ever.

Yep.

Can confirm.

100%

This so much. Advice to any females reading these forums, guys absolutely hate these manipulative games (in general). The truth is a guy could be super interested in you but by playing these games you are telling him you're a bit of a nutcase and he will most likely end up losing whatever interest he had. You're shooting yourself in the foot.

Ftr though, girls aren't the only ones who play games.

Right, so this chick who i've been dating for about a month, although we've barely been able to go out from academic commitments, is awkward and uncomfortable as fuck around me now that we're together (note: she hasn't had a boyfriend before) and it is rather impacting badly upon things.

Any thought lads on how to break that awkwardness down? (also, i've established it's not because she actually doesn't like me, she's just interesting like that.)

It sounds like you're just adjusting to your new relationship. Talk to her, ask her what would make her feel more comfortable. Tell her what your feelings are. Things usually work themselves out over time.

My best advice is just to set aside time for her, but not every single day. How I normally deal with it is I go out and do something I haven't done before, with her. When things got awkward with my last ex, I decided to go white-water rafting with her, and it broke down the barrier for awhile. Though, I'm not the best for advice.

Both sides hate the other fishing around for whatever. You either are or aren't interested. Don't put some condition on it like "I wanted to see if he'd bring me a Honey-eater's wing from Barbados deep fried in monk's tears". Fuck off.

I feel like I should be able to contribute something since I'm sort of the same as the girl in this, but I'm completely clueless :lol:
On that note, will I ever feel like I'm "ready" for a relationship, or is it just something that I have to have a go at and then see from there?

As soon as you're not looking for a relationship and you start meeting people, shit will happen.

Shit will happen is a pretty broad term :lol: Idk, I just don't want to get into a relationship because I don't reckon I'm secure in myself to be with someone else, and it's something I'm kind of uncomfortable about. Oh my god I'm such a loser.

That's not going to be something that can happen overnight for me. Maybe I just need to toughen up.

I really don't get women. Call a guy a douche a few days ago. Nek minnit, wants to date him.